he is of other caste
2006-10-03 20:26:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think marriage is a very good institution, but who wants to spend the rest of their lives in an institution.
I am 59, never been married, and haven't lived alone for any more than a 6 month period since I was 21. This marriage idea is forced upon us by others, most of whom are not really able to think for themselves.
If you are a pair of loving free willed people, then spending a couple of hours or so going through some ancient ceremony is hardly significant to your lives.
In light of today's knowledge the caste system is of no benefit to anyone, so just ignore it and live your own lives. What you do once you are old enough to look after yourself is no-one else's business, and if they don't approve, then let them go their own way with no worries or regrets on your part.
Why should you allow someone else's ideas to restrict your own happiness.
If the pressure from family and acquaintances is too great then move to another area or another country where people have more mature minds.
2006-10-04 20:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the situation, being there twice, the first guy got married to someone og his own caste and the second one, well he's still with me. I try not to get too attached but its very hard. However I must say I have had friends in this situation and they managed to persuade their parents and today they are happily married. Do his parents know about you?
2006-10-04 04:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by zohniyyah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you need to know who has this problem with caste, him or his parents. And trust me girl, don't be dumb enough to date a guy who still believes in casteism. If he has no problem with your caste, i guess if you really want to be with him you can still have the relationship but be ready to leave him when the time comes.
But I'd advise you to not be with him since its clear that you dont have a future in this relationship. There are other fish in the sea. By continuining being with him and then leaving him will only hurt you.
2006-10-04 03:34:33 · answer #3 · answered by Monika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is an important part of our life. Unlike other people, I won't suggest u to go for marrying that guy. I would that just ask urself if u love him more than ur family. Sometimes we take wrong paths without thinking about our future . Check if ur parents ra going to agree for him, if possible. If they r against it then never go for it. My young sister_in_law took a wrong path although our family accepet her but its almost 5yrs still her parents have not accepted them. I have seen her being lonely at all times. Everyone likes her, respects her but her one part is always alone. She cant visit her parents and other relatives. So whatever u do, Just think about all the aspects of life.
2006-10-04 03:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by Believer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello! In this case the family plays imp.role.U must ask atleast ur mom.
If not then u must take a view on family members who loves u alot from childhood & bf whom u know from sometime only.
U will get ur ans.
Umust think on this. Best Luck.
2006-10-04 03:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by simik_1s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other caste?
What the hell?
Are you in medievel times or some crap?
If you love him, marry him.
END OF STORY.
2006-10-04 03:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by ModerndayMadman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u love him why thinking of the caste just run away with him as soon as possible if he is capable of taking u with him
2006-10-04 03:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by sameer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should have guts of going forward in to a relationship if u have put ur neck in it. else don't waste ur time and spoil another person's life. gather the guts or move out.choice is urs .and the sooner u make this choice better for both of u
2006-10-04 03:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by dimdim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him now.
Its everywhere in the start they give commitments and later break off.
Be single and happy
There is alot to see outsiode beside love
2006-10-04 05:43:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing matters in front of love. if your love is true go ahead you will find the ways for your problems.one more thing for loving someone marriage is not necessary you said he is your boyfriend ttreat him like a friend
2006-10-04 03:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by KrishanRam(Jitendra k) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋