Body dis-morphia....have you a child or relative who suffers from this condition? I have a close relative who

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has suffered with body dis-morphis for over l5 years.This had led to years of drug abuse.However, although now completely clean from all substances,including,ciggs,and alcohol,he has taken to gambling on a big scale.I know this is called cross addiction,but the main reason for all of this behaviour is the body dis-morphia which has and still is totally controlling the whole of his life in everything he does.He is totally depressed all the time and suicidal,but will not seek any medication and he is sure there is nothing that will change the way he sees himself.There isn't anything wrong with him,he's such a great person and really good looking,has a great physique,but he doesn't see himself as he is,weve done everything to convince him there's nothing wrong with him,but he totally blocks out anything we say,saying we are only saying he's normal because we love him.Is anyone out there in the same position,can you give me any advice as to what to do.I'm sure I will loose him eventually.

His life if misserable as he is totally paranoid,thinking people are talking about him,he wares really baggy clothes to cover himself up,won''t play sports,go swimming,go to work,only mixes with a few people,although women really like him,he won't get involved again after a bad relationship.He sees no future,and want's out of this world really,it's heartbreaking to see him so loneley,it's such a terrible waste,all he want's is a wife?girlfriend who will love him and he her,some children and he would be on top of the world.He's a real grafter when he has a reason,this illness is holding him back from hacing the things he needs,I am desperate to find an answer.Iv'e even considered having him sectioned for his own safety,but cannot bring myself to do it.He won't seek help as he can't see any out there,any suggestions,what have you been able to do,help please.He has cut us out of his life practically,saying that it is best we don't ring or go and see him as he is always depressed and sad.

Answer 1

This guy is lucky to have someone like you who cares for him and recognises the need for help. Try phoning Sane, the mental health charity, or talk to him while he is in a positive and rational mood and explain he needs to get better, and that you can go with him to a GP, who can advise you about where to find the relevant therapy to help him get over this. Getting him to accept he needs help is the first step, remind him that there is no shame in asking, and that accepting help is needed is a sign of his inner strength. If he can take the first step, with you to support him, then he can go all the way and get better. Good luck.

Answer 2

This is a really sad condition, like eating disorders. Having suffered from anorexia for 3 years I can honestly say that nothing has helped me more than Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). It is accessed with referral from your GP to a psychologist. There is also anti-depressants which can supplement the care he will receive. He sounds in such a bad state though that he might even be sutiable for in-patient treatment. I hope things work out for him.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

there are medications and therapy that can help him. but they will only work if he is willing to help himself. the addiction that is connected with his body image problem is still an addiction and the same things apply with it as with any other. you can't be healed of it unless YOU want to be. keep on being there for him . but there may be an intervention in his future.