to make a long story short. was in a long distance relationship with my ex girlfriend since 1998. we fell in love etc, had plans to move in together, get married , have kids etc. im in the east coast. she was in the southwest. she moved east with her mom to be closer to me. we saw each other 3-4 times. everything was on plan. then she had to move back the southwest and things got harder . we still had our plans etc. she cheated once. beg me to take her back. i did. then as time went on she got moodier and was changing. eventually, 4-5 months ago she told me that she was seeing other people off and on for years and she had just gotten out of a relationship and she was being careful but she got pregnant. was scared to tell me because she didnt want to lose my friendship etc.. i never cheated on her, was always honest about everything and was looking forward to our future. ofcourse i feel like a total idiot now.
2006-10-03 20:20:29 · 11 answers · asked by craig h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh yea ., she told me all of this online. she hasnt called me in months. i communicate with her alittle online here and there to see how she is doing. i admitt, i still care very much for her. i asked her to call me or vice versa to just chat alittle, just to say hi etc. she keeps making all these excuses not to call me. finally she said that she doesnt want to call me because she's pregnant and she feels too weird. a few weeks ago she said that if she calls me her feelings my start up again etc..... i just want to call her and say hi and hear her voice. its over and done with. a phone call to me wont hurt her. she already hurt me with the lies and pregantcy etc...a simple conversation wont make a difference. thats just my opinion. am i wrong?
2006-10-03 20:27:41 · update #1
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2006-10-03 20:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes the stability that you provide her, but that she isnt into fulfilling all of your future plans with you. You need to let go of her and start searching for someone who will appreciate and love you back, which is something that this girl clearly isnt doing.
2006-10-03 20:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you doing this to yourself?? you need to move on because i know exactly why she's doing this...she knows deep down inside she's not good enough for you thats why she came clean...because her cautious was getting to her...you are a good man and she knows you deserve better...she doesnt want to hurt you anymore then she already has....thats why she's avoiding you....i don't know why it's like this but ppl who are good tend to hold on to things that are bad...the reason for this i don't know...maybe because that person is so good at heart they just can't see the bad in others...because your heart is not set up to hurt ppl...so you don't expect them to hurt you...but good ppl often get hurt the most...because ppl take the good ones for granted....and take your kindness for weakness, that's what happened....but you need to close this old chapter and open a new one...and i promise you'll find happiness again but with someone new *good luck*
2006-10-03 20:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop all contact with her. It could of been worse, you could of married her, she cheats on you, got pregnant and named you as the father. And there you would of been raising another man's baby and putting yourself at risk for STD/aids and all kinds of other real nasty stuff. Live and let learn.
2006-10-03 20:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and move on, don't you deserve a good happy life too? She has made her mistakes and so have you, time for you to put your life in gear and move on to someone who shares your same ideals.
2006-10-03 20:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remote love is bad for your health, get someone close to u and try again.
2006-10-03 20:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by predictor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry it is over.It is time to start a new life and find someone else.You deserve better.
2006-10-03 20:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long story short. It must be a pretty long story.
2006-10-03 20:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Goblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur story is good........i dont know what to say know.......but it may b that the girl was trying to cheat u & know want u.......sory ur Ques is bouncing my head.........
2006-10-03 20:26:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she dosn't love you any more
2006-10-03 20:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋