My fiancée wants her niece to be the Junior Bride (a miniature version of her). The Junior Bride is different from a Junior Bridesmaid; she dresses exactly like the bride.
I have heard it may be a Hispanic wedding tradition. Also that it is usually the child of either the groom or bride, or plays a significant part of the couple's life. Her niece is not part of our life. My fiancée has expressed that there is no particular reason for her niece to be a Junior Bride, other than it was a "good idea". My fiancée did not raise her niece nor has a bond beyond the normal aunt-niece, and her niece's mom is already the Maid of Honor. I say make her an usher, tea girl, or Junior Bridesmaid. No, the bride does not get the final word, because I am getting married also; it is OUR day! I am very involved with the wedding planning, as much if not more than she is.
2006-10-03 20:09:56 · 11 answers · asked by Grown Man 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
THANX for the advice & encouragement guys, but what I really need is some concrete reason or purpose for a Junior Bride. It is not a matter of resolution; it is a matter of "Why?"
2006-10-03 20:19:02 · update #1
Not sure why this makes a difference for some folks, but I am paying for 90% of the wedding. So going with that logic "I have the wallet and should have the biggest mouth". Sorry missnuarlens, but I have the high ground using your [flawed] logic.
However, that just doesn't seem fair to me. Just because I pay for the wedding doesn't mean I can dictate what I want. I want to be fair and keep my fiancée happy.
I want my bride to have everything to make her happy, but there are limits. I would agree with the Junior Bride if there was a relevant or sentimental reason for her niece to be the one. I say again, "the niece is not a significant part of OUR lives"; so why should she have a significant role in the wedding?
Mull this one over: Should she choose a [casual] co-worker to be a Maid of Honor, just because my fiancée wants her in the wedding and her best friend is already the Matron Of Honor?
2006-10-04 05:15:30 · update #2
There is no concrete reason for having a junior bride. It's just a cultural tradition. Like many traditions involved with a wedding, it's just there to look nice. Nowadays, is a bridesmaid or a ring bearer really necessary?
Usually, the miniature bride goes along with a miniature groom. They are also children...how old is this girl? Perhaps she could just be the flower girl? I've seen many flower girl dresses that are made to look like tiny versions of the bridal gown.
I think the bigger question here is why this bothers you so much. This is a part of her heritage, and if it is important to her and doesn't have any negative consequences for you, why is this a problem?
2006-10-04 03:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the jr bride position is a southern thing that has spread far and wide. You mostly see them when you have 2 or more flower girls and you still have children who HAVE to be in the wedding. It can be your child, a niece, cousin, a godchild, it doesn't matter as long as this child is in the wedding. My personal opinion on jr brides is if you have someone who wants to spend that kind of money on a child for a few hours let 'em. As long as the child is old enough to walk down the aisle without causing a major distraction what ever makes 'em happy a long as you don't have to pay the $200 plus dollars they are about to pay for this childs dress.
now about that statement you made. Yes it maybe your wedding too but if you are not paying for it you donot have a thing to say. the wallet controls the wedding not the biggest mouth.
2006-10-03 21:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by missnuarlens 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never heard of a Junior bride at a wedding.
I know that the quici celebration (15th birthday) is like a miniature wedding with the 15 yea old dressed as a bride & they have maids and all, in a church etc.
To me a jr. bride almost sounds incestuious, like you the groom get to "do" both of them. I don't think it is a good Idea. Show the bride this answer please.
2006-10-04 02:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just have to say that I am from the South and I do not know where it came from but, I think it is dumb and tacky. There are so many other things little boys and girls can do for the wedding. This is where the bride should shine. Does she think it is cute or does she think it is in style or something? Yuck!
2006-10-04 07:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance probably just wants the awh! factor from her guests. Its kinda cute if there is more sentimental attachement, but since its just b/c it sounds like a good idea, doesnt mean it is for everyone. Discuss with your fiance that the junior bride will take away attention from her and she might agree.
2006-10-03 20:37:06 · answer #5 · answered by curiosity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a Junior Bride would take away from the actual Bride! Does she want it to be her day or Juniors?
2006-10-03 20:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by Ash Anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Biblically there is no purpose it's just another fancy name to add someone in the wedding party..Trust I am a Wedding Planner and we see it all the time.
2006-10-03 20:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless there is a particular reason as to why u don't want it then I say let her have her junior bride. you don't want her to have any regrets about her wedding day. I've always wanted one for whan I get married
2006-10-03 20:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by sexy j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
http://www.partypop.com/forums/Weddings/m20115.htm
sorry this was the only relevant article. I think the tradition is to include a child from a former marriage in the ceremony.
2006-10-04 05:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by bttrswt1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, well chill out and have fun with it man!
get yourself a 'mini-me' boy. to match her junior bride.
2006-10-03 20:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by jorluke 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋