2006-10-03 19:45:01 · 9 answers · asked by ann b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Try reading these books:
Dare to Discipline by James Dobson
The Strong Willed Child by James Dobson
2006-10-04 01:22:58 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen very carefully: You need to set consequences. If he misbehaves, take away something he likes (toy,game,treat, whatever) DO NOT give in. DO NOT feel guilty. ALWAYS STAY CONSISTENT. THIS IS NOT BEING MEAN. It is teaching him what the world will show him when he gets older, He needs to learn to respect you before this gets out of control. And REMEMBER, YOUR ARE NOT YOUR CHILDS FRIEND, YOU ARE HIS PARENT. Make him earn things that he wants. Don't just give, give, give. And YES, positive reinforcement is good, but must be coupled w/ guidence and dicipline. It is natural for a child to "push" you, to try to get everything they want w/ whatever behavior/attitude they want. The role of parent is to GUIDE the child and TEACH them about the world in which they live. If you just let your child do WHATEVER, then you are doing them a major diservice. You are neglecting to give them the essential skills them need to succeed in this world/society. The childs formative years should be as positive and joyful as possible. But they won't be if you let things get out of control. Yes, ignore the laughter,. Don't let him see that it upsets you... he will use to wear you down. Good Luck
2006-10-03 20:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by RAVEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking away something that he really loves, ( a favourite toy,not you!). Explain why you're doing this and tell him that when he's ready to say sorry, he can have it back. And as the others have said, praise good behavior! Actually, don't return the toy straight away, if he's smart, he'll soon learn that all it takes is an apology, not a change in behavior. Use your own instinct as to when to return the toy(s). Good luck!
2006-10-03 20:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by bougainvillaea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never easy but with perseverance on your part, he will likely grow out of it. I think the single most important aspect is to be firm but fair and to offer 10 times more praise than criticism. Try the naughty chair trick. Act up and you are warned, act up again and five minutes on the chair to think about the behavior with a chat and apology before returning to the family. good luck
2006-10-03 19:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows that you love him , so when you punish him do not show any emotion , be firm and enforce the punishment , to stay for one hour alone in his room or not to have chocolate etc. However this is a nice age ,don't worry and enjoy the fantasy of childhood.
2006-10-03 20:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs you to give him more positive reinforcement for the little things he does right! Remember how much the little things mean to you? It's the same for him right now! It starts little by little. I'm going through the same thing with my 3 year old girl! And her new Pre-School teacher gave me a few pointers! I hope this helps you and your son!
2006-10-03 19:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Caffiene Junkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although he's still 3 yrs old, but you have to set rules to be followed to save your mind from future headache.
2006-10-03 21:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by loveland_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better put your foot down and beat that a s s before its to late!
2006-10-03 19:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by Love Child 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE IN CONTROL, YOU ARE THE PARENT, HE IS THE CHILD. SEND HIM TO HIS ROOM OR WHATEVER YOU DO AND IGNOR THE LAUGHTER.....WHEN HE REALIZES THAT YOU COULD CARE LESS ABOUT IT, HE WILL STOP.
2006-10-03 19:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋