I met a guy friend a year ago. I've always been interested in him but things never went futher than just friends. He liked me at times too but because we were sending mix messages, things always ended up in arguments and eventually we just dropped the subject. I begin seeing other people and I never asked about the people he like. Well, the sticky situation is that he has a bestfriend and that was part of the mix messages he was sending. I am his friends now but I think deep down i still really like him. I don't want to get close to him because i know of his female bestfriend situation. He've told me that he was attracted to her back when he was sending me mix messages. But either way, my question is, should i still hang out with him, even though i have feelings for him in which i know nothing would work out because his female bestfriend is in the way? Or am i just blowing this out of proportion?
2006-10-03 19:36:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess what my true question is should i still befriend with him? He is a really wonderful friend and it seems like he wants to spend time with me to. But the thing is everytime i think about him, i ust realize how much i really want to be with him but can't because of the whole bestfriend thing and also because we're just very different.
2006-10-03 19:54:52 · update #1
You could hang out as friends as long as you can honestly say you have NO EXPECTATIONS for more. If you really just want to be friends, nothing wrong, noone gets hurt but if you are expecting or hoping for more, you are setting yourself up for more heartache. If you already know that nothing will come of it, and you want something from it, why waste anymore time on a nowhere relationship?:) good luck
2006-10-03 19:41:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should lay all of your cards on the table with him... just tell him how you feel. Don't get in a relationship though if there seem to be obstacles or if he seems reluctant. You guys need to sort out through this miscommunication caused by bad communication... so just sit down and have some clear communication, even if it is uncomfortable and embarrassing. It will save you time that you won't be wasting wondering why.
2006-10-03 19:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you guys have any chance at all i would go for it i was in a similar situation. see my best friend and her boyfriend broke up and my best friend moved away. her x-boyfriend and i became best friends and i fell in love with his brother. well my best friend that moved away got jealous and moved back just when the x-boyfriend's brother and i were getting to be really good friends. since the x-boyfriend would not take her back she went behind my back and told the brother lots of bad things about me that were not true and then slept with him. well i did not give up and now i am engaged to marry the brother and 3 months pregnant with his child and i could't be happier. so if you really think something is there don't give up.
2006-10-03 19:46:21 · answer #3 · answered by shortie_ss_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we think that we like a person because of what they're doing for us specially the message they're sending to us...we are always jumping into conclusion...if the guy told you already that she liked someone, then whatever feelings going on to you then you have to stop it now or you will end up breaking your heart...why don't you go on vacation, meet other people and try to learn not thinking him
2006-10-03 19:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by harukashin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define your boundaries. Hang out if you enjoy his company enough to hang out. Ask yourself if you would want this to go anywhere. It sounds as though there is a sexual attraction here. Can you go there with no other expectation?
Decide what you want from this situation and what you can deal with.
2006-10-03 19:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel ,I have a man but my ex-neighbor & me were givin' each other the eyes when we passed each other by and one day he asked if I were married to my bf . Told him ,'no' but that felt bad because I did have a crush on him .... long story short he's still on my mind from time to time but I can't act on it.... you have to ask yourself 'Am I going to sleep with everybody who gives me a little attention? ' Hell no ,so get over him if that's possible for you and live your life knowing your not a ho.....
2006-10-03 19:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by No 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your second best now you will always be second best personally i would move on and find someone with whom i am best as to staying just friends that is your choice honey my suggestion would be to find other friends good luck good friends are hard to find but they do exist .
2006-10-03 20:09:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes to have an adoring audience. Would you keep hitting your head against the brick wall. Move on babe. He is not right for you. You are too smart. You can see his game but you don't want to believe it.
2006-10-03 19:40:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a relationship? or just a thought? maybe just accept the role as a friend and nothing more. Don't waste your time. If he likes you he will say something about it, look for a better one. goodluck!
2006-10-03 20:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i didn't read your text,i was sure you are a girl and i made sure by reading the first two lines
What is it with girls and having to "go"somewhere?
Have fun ok....?
You wish it was that simple?everyone does
2006-10-03 19:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋