Some positive answer's please?

Question

I'm having a real hard time letting go of my ex-boyfriend, I'm still very much in love with him. My heart feels like it can't beat with out him. We broke up because of something major, that is preventing us from getting back together right now. He has a girlfriend now, but we still mess around. I know I deserve better everybody tells me so. But there's something about him that makes it hard to walk away, But I need to because I feel like I'm the one that's going to get hurt the most at the end. Please give me some advice how to let the person that you thought was the love of your life go?

Answer 1

You have to change the way that you think about him. You have to stop referring to him as the love of your life, and stop saying things like "my heart can't beat without him." You can survive any heartache, yes it is hard and it sucks, but you can do it, and that's what you have to tell yourself. He isn't respecting you, and he isn't respecting his new girlfriend, is that really the kind of guy you want? If he really loved you, would he continue hurting you? No, he's being selfish. You have to be hard on yourself and make yourself do the right thing. Sometimes doing what is best for ourselves isn't fun, but in the end you will be happier. It will take some time, but you can do it. Cut him completely out of your life, don't even take his phone calls....That's a good start.

Answer 2

Remember he isn't the only guy "out there"-give urself a break and hit the dating scene, not as a preditor but finding a guy who is fun to be around-and above all do not compare the ones you meet with your former b.f That isn't fair to them,yourself and can bring budding friendships/relationships to a crashing halt.
The old b.f. is getting on with his life without a secnd thought about you and the fact you 'still mess around" is giving him his cake and eating it too! Is that all you think of yourself-you can do better than that-he is using you-been there, done that.
Believe it or not, in times ahead, you won't even remember this guy! I know you don't believe that-you are hurting now but the old saying is true that "time heals all wounds"--been there, done that too-as most people have and they have, for the most part, found happiness in new relationships, even marrying them!
Life is NOT over-don't give the old b.f. that much power over you that you can't function-he sure is! Go for it, sweetie!

Answer 3

The love you feel for him will never go away, so don't try to make it do that. It will become a part of you and who you are... the main thing is you have to live with that. Ok so the guy has a girlfriend right now and hes gonna keep her as long as he KNOWS you cant walk away from him... don't fall into that trap !! Your instincts are true when you say you are the one that will get hurt in the end... you have to take it one day at a time... spend time with friends, do the things you like, or whatever makes you feel comfortable.

The world is too big and life is too short to be depressed .... trust me, theres many people out there that could be the love of your life...

Good Luck, HANG IN THERE

Answer 4

Right now you are giving your ex the best of both worlds....a girlfriend and something on the side. I would stop the sex for starters and maybe just keep in touch by email IM and phone...outta sight outta mind. You will get hurt if you are not careful, and if he does come back you now have to deal with the fact that he is capable of cheating (you were the other woman).

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Answer 6

Well please think that love is the most tricky in the world. It can make happy,lough,miss each other. The worst is make you sad.
So time is the best solutions to forget someone that you love. Open your heart get get a new love. Go for holiday and get a fresh air. You need is only TIME to make your life go on. Think positive and remember still a lot of good guys out there waiting for you.

Answer 7

There's only one way to get over an old love ..it is with the new love...yeah, you are feeling the love still because you've been together....and undeniably you still love him. But you got to face the reality on the other hand...he has moved on already without you....on someone else....you're just gonna hurt yourself more..it's easier said than done but at least you tried...try to move on....be strong....help yourself....go-out....have some make-over ...and try to meet new ones....give yourself a chance to be happy too....if you two were meant for each other...fate will make its way to meet your paths again....but for now pray harder this time...it helps...it works....and cry ...let your tears flow it will ease up stress....anyways....crying would last you in a week at most....then you'll get used to it...try to avoid him when he wanted to see you....drop his call...it's hard..but it's the right thing to do. Give him cold shoulder....you're also giving him chance to think things over in such a way.....again be strong....:)

Answer 8

By the sounds of it you have only recently broken up. I dont think there is much advice to give. you just need to give yourself time to get over him.

If you have photos around or anything he has given you wther throw them out or put them in shoe box and give them to your mum or someone to put away where you cant get to them, that will help a little, cos your not seeing everything and remembering so much of all the good times.

You just need to go out and get on with your life , if it was your for the two of you to be together it will work out eventually. give it time for your heart to heal.

When i was 15 i met the guy of my dreams, but he dumped me for another girl, 1 year later we got in touch with each other and now we are getting married. so things can some time work out for the best.

Good Luck with everything and sont be so hard on yourself

Answer 9

Breaking up, and "still messing around" with him, isnt the answer to your question!

Cut the ties cleanly. Or, he is simply going to "use you" now that he has another girl friend.

Does this girlfriend "know" that your still having sex? I bet she wouldnt be happy at that prospect!!

After two years, you will be "over" the current relationship, or, unless you get another boy friend in the mean time. I wouldnt be shy about playing the field, and trying for some one new.

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 10

Do you really want to be treated this way? Stop punishing yourself by allowing him to continue to see you. If you really want him back, he needs to experience missing you. As it stands he'll never make that decision because he is literally having his cake and eating it too. Get busy. Do some things you enjoy, just for you. Be unavailable. You need time to heal. Gather male attention even if its in the form of friends. I'm sure you're an attractive person . Spread your wings. This could be your time.