2006-10-03 19:02:49 · 12 answers · asked by emily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if they way they brought you up is hindering you getting on with life , then you should. Just remember that most of the time they think they are doing right. So talk to them carmly and tell them how you feel but understand that most ppl bring there children up they way they have been brought up and cant see the wrong in it. Clear the air with them forgive them then get on with your life without carrying the baggage of your upbringing with you. The most important thing though is learn from them and bring your children up the way you would have wanted to be brought up not the way your parents brought you up.
2006-10-03 19:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been considering this for a very long time, but since becoming a parent myself I came to realize that my parents did the best they could under the circumstances they were in at the time.
2006-10-04 02:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Theresa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how they raised you and how old you are. Those are two big things - if you are under 18 your parents have the right to still control you, etc.
2006-10-04 04:16:35 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I havent. I dont think my mom has changed any since she was raising me therefore I dont think she will see what Im talking about. Im sure if it was okay then, its still okay and she wont understand. We're not close at all because of the way I was raised, I dont think things will change.
2006-10-04 02:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i bieleve not because although you know what you know you can never understand why they did this and that parents do there best even though we dont see it that way they may have had many problems you dont know or understand just be greatfull if they fed you and kept a roof over your head .
2006-10-04 02:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I told my parents (my mom, actually) and she started defending herself, and eventually erupted.
Different people will react differently but i believe it is not a good idea if you have too many negative remarks.
Don't upset ur parents. Learn from their mistakes so that you do not repeat it. And remember what they did right.
2006-10-04 03:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by taryyip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and you should so that you need not curse them when they scold u
first,start the conversation by saying:Mum/dad,please dont get angry if i say this to u....(n talk bout it!)
I am a counsellor and daughters/sons drift astray as they are lack of communications and confessions to and from their parents. Please communicate.But do not forget to highlight how GOOD they've raised you too!
2006-10-04 04:46:25 · answer #7 · answered by ms_rar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
em....u can if u feel that u really need to ....well i guess the issue here is i think u r not quite happy with ur parents!!
mayb u can sit down and have a chat with them!! but dun go into a quarrel ..... bottom line i think mayb u have a chat with them i guess mayb u ll find out why they brought u uo the way they did....s'times adults have prblms but they dun reveal it to their kids mayb they dun want them to feel hurt.....
try putting urself in their shoes mayb u ll u'stand them better!!
gd luck...
2006-10-04 02:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from an old man who's been there. If you don't let your feelings be known to them you'll be sorry the rest of your life.
2006-10-04 02:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, once you're on your own, do whatever the hell you want. Either you repeat what your parents did or you don't.
2006-10-04 02:33:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋