I've been searching for love my whole life. But for some reason I've been unsuccessful, I haven't even as much as held a ladies hand in 14 years, and this is not by choice, I'm just going to have to be patient I guess. Trust me, it's not that I'm picky and just waiting for the perfect lady, I'm not like that, a good heart is all she needs, even if I was, after this amount of time, I don't have a right to be picky. I have recently met a lady I do care for alot, but being with her is not an option. Seriously, I'm almost double her age, and she is with someone she cares for, so...I can't be with her, I can't tell her how I feel about her either, because then she'll know that because I can't be with her, I've decided to settle, and that would be grossly unfair to do to someone you care for. Is it time to settle for someone I may never truly be happy with. The solitude is so bad I have to end it, or it will seriously kill me, it already is.
2006-10-03 18:53:36 · 7 answers · asked by Sentinel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am on the verge and have been on asking this question...myself...several times on here...In fact...I am thinking about it right now...IDK whether I am happy or not with him and it's driving me nuts...I know I was beforehand til his mother started to butt in and then now we hardly talk and when we do it's like he doesn't want to...Thing is that he is the one who has the first and only dibs on calling me...Because he is the one who's job is far away and I have no way to get in touch with a military man...So I can see clearly what you are going through...That person is so hard to reach and you can't seem to get the one you've looked for...It's a ***** to handle...That's the reason I am so down right now...I've tried everything to get to him and then I try to get my mind off him...Because it seems as if he doesn't want me...Thing is that I am the only idiot who has stayed around and put up with what he does and then he runs!...*sighs*...Maybe we don't really settle for love anymore...Maybe we settle just so we know someone is there to witness our life in case of a downfall and we need someone to carry it on...IDK...She's out there though...If not...Bachelor life is good too...I think...I'm not a guy so IDK...All I know is that I have settled for the worst guys on the planet just to have someone around and that is soooo bad...I just want one good guy to stick around...WHERE IS HE!!!...Sry...I didn't quite answer your question but I hope it works out...She's out there though...Maybe we should just quit looking and hopefully they will trip and fall in front of us and then we will be happy?...lol...
2006-10-03 19:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by *Panda* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 years!!!14 years!!! Man drop the soap or something. Now seriously you said it your self you can´t be with this lady. Don´t go there , Someone is going to get hurt guaranteed . If you find a single woman don´t worry about the age thing Bax. Being with an older dude saves women allot of headaches. That's why they look for an older men. As soon as you get a woman there are going to be other women after you .It´s a known fact. Have patience but don´t just sit at home and wait for a girl to fall on your lap. You gotta look hard. And if you think you´ve looked hard , well then just look harder. You´re not gonna die Bax it´s gonna by fine, you´ll see.
2006-10-04 02:47:34 · answer #2 · answered by Loser Millionaire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. It's not easy being alone. Solitude is an excellent word for it. It puts a cap on lonely. I'm sorry to hear that you can't be with the one you really would like to. So you're thinking of what you call settling for less and not truly be happy. I'm sorry for the person you say you will be settling for, I'm sorry for you as well. Neither of you will be happy. Settling for does not make a good relationship. You already know that in advance, just by the words you've used. But if that is what it takes to console your solitude and aloneness, good luck to you and your settled for partner. You'll need it............
2006-10-04 02:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound way out there in depression land. My friend you never ever just settle. It is not the right thing to do.
I assure you I will not be the only person saying this to you... Keep the faith my friend, she will come. Prayer is very good..try it.
2006-10-04 01:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well your not dead you typed this i think your looking in the wrong places for a woman and choosing what you cannot have for punishment to your self , You need to ask your self why your doing this to your self and address the problem and move on ..
2006-10-04 02:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online dating.seriously if its a last resort
2006-10-04 01:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by dan l 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will pray for you my son,,,
2006-10-04 01:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋