Should I ever tell a girl I just started dating that I have A.D.D. or a learning disabilitiy.?

Question

You think she will quickly judge me after that or is that something I should just keep to myself no matter what?

Answer 1

The truth is in between. When you start talking more in depth--especially when you're talking about childhoods, having kids, difficulties in your lives, etc.--that would be the time to mention it. Never mentioning it is a lie by omission; mentioning it on the first few dates can be a bit overwhelming.

Answer 2

read and make nothing of what's said emotionally just blank read it,your bad temper and lack of the ability to hid your emotions will have already revealed themselves or will be the stress of hiding it in the relationship, some truths are better to be done at the right time, so that if you and her are going to do this stuff do it with out trying to say you already know it all, most people in this area are like 300 light years ahead and waiting for the world to catch up it just get you to shoot your self in the foot as the lines you live by have to stretch out of range of motor mobilities in too much stress as too little can be finding way to control what you want to be with out controlling her loose interest in how thing might change and use you strong point that she likes always and don't use the part that needs help it will teach you self reliance and give you your self esteem to bury the differences in it always tuff she never stop smiling when she there and don't go a big hole in your heart try to make it cover the hole just see the light side

Answer 3

If you think she will quickly judge you, don't. Let her get to know you first and if you two become lovers, then tell her. If she really likes you by then then she'll say she won't care.

HOWEVER, if you know she's the sort of person to give people chances, like a those nice girls that are out there, and is honest, then you should tell her straight up.

Answer 4

If you hide it you better get ready to one day answer her question: "Why didn't you tell me before?"
From personal experience I know that the truth always comes out. Having ADD or a learning disability doesn't make a lesser person. Don't be afraid to share who you really are. Telling the truth will liberate you. You will be free & not having to pretend, trying to be somebody else.

Answer 5

Sure! why not, millions of people do. Well at the same time you shouldn't start up a conversation about it out of nowhere, but if it fits in with the topic, don't hold back. It is nothing to be ashamed of! Einstein was ADD/LD:)

See this site for more info:
http://www.CHADD.com

Answer 6

Wait until prompted. If you're talking about grades, that's a time to talk about learning disabilities. If she comments that you seem distracted, tell her why. If your ritalin wears off and she asks why you seem different, tell her. Never lie, never hedge, and never be ashamed. It is part of who you are and you are doing the best to deal with it.

Answer 7

Well, she is your girl. If things get deep enough, then yeah. But don't tell it to a vain peacock who will break up in two weeks and spread it across the land.

Answer 8

that is something that will come with getting to know her. Get to know her first then judge whether or not you should tell her. Would it effect you in anyway not to tell her? Why tell her so soon?

Answer 9

ADD doesn't really exist so I don't see how that would be a problem. But you have no obligation to tell a girl personal things like that at first. Wait until the realtionship is going somewhere.

Answer 10

Is it really a good idea to lay the foundations of a relationship with secrets?

:-)