My 16 month daughter is getting a little out of hand. How do I teach her to listen?

Answer 1

there are no easy answers when it comes to raising children. all kids are
individuals and since you are her mom you need to know her best of all.
this is your most important job. asking others to give you advice means that
you have already failed. smarten up. listen to her. have patience. love her.
respect her. teach her the way she needs to be taught.

Answer 2

I'm willing to be she isn't getting out of hand, but actually blossoming and becoming aware of her autonomy.

Discipline is a gradual process that evolves out of the trust the child has for his/her mother. In the early period after birth, if a child is fed (human milk preferably) on demand, held on demand, never ever left to cry, and spoken to in a reciperocal fashion, then a child learns that mommy is reliable and the world is a good place. Out of these good feelings come a desire to please mommy.

Working with that good relationship and the child's desire to please, a parent then helps a child develop self-control and learn about the expectations for appropriate behavior. A parent doesn't scold a child for not knowing the rules, a parent teaches the rules. A parent must always be consistent. If you say 'don't touch,' you don't ignore a child when she touches, you remove the item or remove her from the item. Every single time.

If you say, please play over here and she goes over there, you take her in and say sweetly, 'i said you needed to stay here, so you'll need to go in because you didn't listen.' Done with consistency, it takes very little time to teach the average child that loving, reliable mom also means business.

Having very few rules is a very good idea. Having clear expectations is a very good idea. Understanding what behavior kids are actually capable of throughout their development is very important. Hitting is a very bad idea - hitting lowers the IQ, creates resentment, teaches fear instead of self-control, and doesn't work. Giving children lots and lots of attention when they are behaving well is good. Day care and other premature separations between mommy and child are bad and are strongly correlated with the children misbehaving and being less approved of by daddy - as well as with lower IQ, greater social problems, lower self-esteem, more depression and anxiety.

Building a strong, secure foundation and treating our children with love and repsect - that's what's worked for us. Our children are an unceasing joy to us and very very easy to raise. The book, "How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk" helped me undertake this better style of discipline. I have never met a child raised this way who wasn't sweet, respectful, and independent-minded. It's really very lovely.

Answer 3

Remeber Jackie Onasis? She forced people to listen to her by first getting their attenton, then speaking softly to force them to keep paying attention. Simply take her hands when she is doing something bad, speak in quite soothing tones what she is doing wrong, why it is wrong and what will happen if she dosen't stop. and if she keeps going do what you told her you would do, no exceptions. The man reason childeren act up is beacuse they dont understand why it is bad, or punishment is not as bad as you said it would be. Make sure it is as bad as you said, dont back down and change the punishment as she does and how the situation merits it, if you continue to give her the same disciplen she will get used to it and it wont bother her as much. and last but not least, when the punishment is over and she isn't mad anymore hug her and tell her you love her and although she was a bad girl right then, you know she is really a good girl and will do better in the future beacuse you know she is better then that.

Answer 4

She is 16months..... Teach how to listen???????????????????

???? Out of hand??

Ok its a simple rule. Your daughter does not know why she should listen, therefore she does not. Teach her why it is good to do what you tell her to do(no punishment here) and why it benefits her or other people. (i.e, "your safer over here because the dog wont jump on you")

She simply doesnt understand why. Now once she understands why (this will take some time) Then try timeouts, or whatever punishment or ritual your child responds to*(every child is differant).

Answer 5

i strongly believe in genetics some kids are a handful and some aren't my daughter is 2 months away from being 3 and she listens to every word i say, what i practice is not harsh discipline because i believe a small child will respond more to love, than anger i dont know if that's you parenting style but alot of parents practice it, i guess all that i could say is to give your child you complete undivided attention keep him or her well entertained and let them hear nothing but love in you voice, dont get me wrong it does not work all the time but i have had quite alot of success with this method, i wish you the best,

Answer 6

I have a 21 month old and know what you mean. I just make sure I am consistent and always follow up the same way even if its 10 times in a row. They will finally learn but only if you are consistent.

Answer 7

Small positive reinforcements. It sounds like she wants to be a little helper or a little more independent. Let her try to sweep and tell her good job! Let her put some clothes in the dryer or just small light things like that! Or closing the door and say good job! what a big girl you are!

Answer 8

If she is doing something wrong get down to her level and take her by the arms and look her in the eye and tell her sternly "NO, that is NOT acceptable", or "NO HITTING", whatever it is that she is doing wrong. Kids this age know what NO means but they will keep pushing you. My son turned 2 in Aug and if he doesn't listen he gets a time out. I strap him in his booster chair and put him in the corner for 2 minutes. He usually listens to me after that.

Answer 9

I have worked in youth detention centers for several years. All or part of her privilages can be on a earned basis. You can do this with some sort of token economy. If you are serious I can e-mail or fax you some ideas.

Answer 10

Try Timeouts if not for her, for you every child relys on there mommys and thinks that they have to be up your butt, Take a time out away from her Tell her "mommy isn't gonna play with you if you don't know how to share" or whatever the problem is.