I cut my son's hair - he's three - and it looked great. Then my son's father got his new wife to change it because they didn't like it. I was pretty annoyed. But I also suppose that he is the son of two individuals, not just me. Would you be annoyed (or angry as hell, actually) or philosophical about it?
I was angry, but quickly decided not to worry about it.
2006-10-03 18:35:54 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Dear cassandra, my son has a healthy rich busy life with four adults who all love him. Is that such a terrible tragedy to you?
2006-10-03 19:09:42 · update #1
Dear cassandra, my son has a healthy rich busy life with four adults who all love him. Is that such a terrible tragedy to you?
2006-10-03 19:10:01 · update #2
Dear cassandra, my son has a healthy rich busy life with four adults who all love him. Is that such a terrible tragedy to you?
2006-10-03 19:10:19 · update #3
sounds like a common psychological reaction - focus on meaningless stuff so you don't have to focus on the terrible tragedy of a little boy having a split up family.
2006-10-03 18:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would say you have a right to be angry due to you being the primary care giver (or i assume that) And I know i would have been pissed about it-- I get pissed at my son's Great-Grandma for cutting his hair and she used to be a hair dresser BUT i have it cut the way I want it as his primary care giver. I applaud you for deciding to not worry about it!!! I try and think- Its just hair-- IT WILL grow back- it might take some time but is it worth getting all worked up over! Again I applaud you and only hope i could do the same!!
2006-10-04 01:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Dixie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have custody, I'd be angry. Even if you have shared custody, I'd still be angry if they knew that you had just cut your son's hair. If your husband didn't like the haircut, he should have called you to talk about it, not just have his fiance change it.
I think it's best to discuss boundaries in the beginning so that there are not power struggles and very hurt feelings later on.
2006-10-04 01:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be that totally angry but a little annoyed that she is not the mother of the 3 yr. old.. If the father/ ex fiance has custody of the child then that may be a consideration because he has him more. Did they tell you or did they just do it??
It is ok to be a little upset because you just got the haircut then it was changed.
2006-10-04 01:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by aLex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I would be very upset! If he spends the majority of time with you and you have custody then I think it's your decision.
My little girl will be 3 this month and never has had her hair cut- It's very long and beautiful! When it was growing out everybody knew that they better not 'trim' or cut a single strand!
2006-10-04 09:47:24 · answer #5 · answered by Alison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My initial reaction would be to get annoyed, but what the hell....it's hair and it will grow out. My son has had ugly haircuts while he was with my ex or me. Last summer my son begged me to let him get a mohawk....I agreed because it would be grown out before school started. Unfortunately, the ex was NOT cool with it at all ;-P
2006-10-04 01:54:15 · answer #6 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see it as them just caring about him... and changing his haircut a little is their way of showing it. There will come many days when you dress him to go somewhere, (kids being kids. )and within hours he'll look nothing like what you wanted him to. You wouldn't get mad at your son for it right? Life's too short.... hair grows. Save the stress for his puberty years=)
2006-10-04 01:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would have been nice of them to consult you. I would be pissed at my own husband if he changed one of my kids' haircuts without so much as discussing it with me. But in the grand scheme of things like you, I would just blow it off. I mean it is only hair and it does grow back and he is both of yours. I think you are right.
2006-10-04 01:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth getting upset over. It's just hair and it will grow back. That's why I get mad when I hear about some people getting upset about a bad haircut in a salon. It will grow back, and you just don't go back to that salon. Some people are so upset that they sue the salon....It's just hair.
2006-10-04 01:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be annoyed. (but I am easily annoyed) They could have called you to check if it was o.k. If he lives with you MOST of the time I would think that decision would be yours. But on the other hand, maybe they thought they were being helpful by getting his hair cut-- one less thing for you to have to do??
2006-10-04 08:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋