my sister just found out that ive been cutting myself for several months now and has threatened to tell our mother, i am 16 and depressed for a year now and im also bullimic...my question is, is anyone else a cutter and how did your parents react when they found out, did you stop or go to a physcologist? i dont want to stop cuz its the only way i know how to deal with life and control mine but im tired of acting in front of friends and at school i just want to be free of depression any help? advice?
2006-10-03 18:21:53 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i dont want her finding out right now cuz she is already stressing over my sister being in alternative and getting raped, my grandpa is sick and we are having money problems i dont want to add my "problem" to the pile of burdens to her
2006-10-03 18:30:17 · update #1
It sounds like you feel left out and ignored. You don't wnat to be a problem and it sounds like you really need for the people around you to notice that you are in so much pain.
Get help. Go to the school counceller and tell tham that you need help. Go to your church and talk with the paster or priest. If you don't have a church, go to any Catholic Church and say you need to talk to someone. There is help out there. Just don't keep this as your own secret. The harder you try to stuff it down the more powerful it gets.
You are worth the time and attention that you need.
God Bless You,
2006-10-03 19:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a cutter and got help through a counseling and psychiatric clinic. I was also hospitalized a few times. IT doesn't go away without treating the underlying issues. You are asking for an easy and convenient way to make it NOT a problem. Well, it is definitely a problem and you need to share this with a professional, which gives you no excuses about burdening your family. Get moving to save your sanity, because setting this problem aside only makes it more difficult to deal with later in life.
2006-10-03 18:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a cutter. I tried many ways to stop. Therapy, medication, getting my friends to hide all the sharp objects and take them all out of my house. Nothing worked until I started writing. I am not saying by any means that none of the above will work for you. All of the above are very good starts to a new way of coping with things that are painful in life. Thats what it was for me. Cutting was a release of painful energy. It felt better...took my mind off of it. I am going to email you a poem that I personally wrote...it is published, but I dont want everyone on yahoo seeing it. Hope the above suggestions and the email help. Feel free to talk with me any time, email or im.
2006-10-04 01:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your parents so that they can get you a psycologist. This will help you find a way to deal with all that extra crap that happens at your age. I know what you mean by being addicted. I understand it. But, you don't want these scars for life because, I know eventually you will find yourself. Listen, if you don't tell your parents your self then your sister is going to, then it seems like some big huge deal. Just try to mention it, or just like sit by them with one cut showing. Forget about the pressures in life right now. Your in the worst part of your life, but it will get better... MUCH much better.
2006-10-03 18:34:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to cut last year and when I told my mother she didn't cry or get angry, she just asked me why I did it. At the time I was already seeing a psychologist though and that helped.
First of all you should teel you're mother what's been going on. it's better coming from you than you're sister. The other problems can wait, what matters is that you get help, stop cutting and feel happy. And if you're friends are you're true friends, then if you tell them you're depressed, they will still accept you and like you for who you are.
2006-10-03 23:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Black Rainbow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh.... what a horrible story.
When i was younger i was a cutter, no one knew, i hid it very well. Except my boyfriend at the time. I use to cut my legs, and when we were about to have sex for the first time, he saw all the cuts and scares and started crying! No joke. So after that moment i just stopped doing it as i realised i wasn't just hurting myself but the people that cared about me too. Lucky no one in my family ever knew and now that i am older i can understand it would of broke my mums heart.
I hope you get some help because it is curable!!
2006-10-03 18:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first up just stop the cutting. It is not going to solve anything, when you grow up you will be embarassed by the scars and people may not take you seriously because they'll feel you're carrying a lot of baggage. Just put away the blades.
I can relate to the depression, and that's something a lot of people have to deal with in their lives so you're not alone. Speak to your parents about that they may be glad that you can confide in them.
Take up a sport, be more active, sure you may feel you need to be thinner, but do it the healthy way. get more involved socially- whether its at school or having good friends to talk to, and you will find things aren't as glum as they look. Once you realise there's so much more to life than cutting and such dark things, you can try to overcome the depression, you may have to keep fighting it, but better to fight it than to give in to it.
2006-10-03 18:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by stj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi this is coming for a mental health nurse that works with teenagers. First off cutters in general do cut to fill their need for attention to some degree. What is going on that requires you to seek out this negative attention. Ussually it does have to do with a past truma that you are unwilling to deal with. By no means do I see this as bad... You are young and still learning coping methods. In my opinion you need to get so help to find out why you cant control your life. Tell your mom, Tell her you need help. Talk to a counselor or even a short term antidepressant. Believe me sweetie, this isnt the way you want to continue. Best of Luck!
2006-10-03 18:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Tara C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My mom was like that and for years I would ask her how those scars were there and she always lied to me and said it was an accident. You should tell your mom. You need help!! My mom and I don't talk anymore because she never got help and is completely crazy. Im not calling you crazy but if you want to isolate from people who love you just to mutilate yourself, well, that is going to be your loss sweetie. You are young enough to get help and you really need it, the sooner the better. You have to want to stop or you won't be able to. YOU HAVE TO WANT IT BAD ENOUGH!! This has destroyed my relationship so badly with my mom (im 33 now) and I haven't talked to her in years. As bad as this sounds I tell people she is dead. To me, she is. It is not to be mean but she is still in denial however her arms tell another story. you have a sister who cares and please don't throw your family away over something that can get under control. Good luck, be brave, and please get help.
2006-10-03 18:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to see an expert. Eat a balanced diet and exercise. Walk two times a day. Exercise improves pheromones or happiness harmone. Make sure you do not spit your food out. Sugar imbalances can make you psychotic. Make sure you take multi vitamin after breakfast. At night, after snack and before sleep take a calcium, magnesium and zinc tablet. The tablet that suits me really well is from Trader Joe's. Make sure you take my advise and then tell me how you feel thru yahoo answers.
2006-10-03 18:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by observer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋