I'm an engineer my boyfriend is just a food distributor my parents won`t let me be with him what should i do

Question

i don't know what to do, i want to tell them that i love him but my parents won't understand that, and i don't wanna leave him, he is soul mate my, best friend, my life partner.

Answer 1

As an engineer you have many years of education behind you. I suspect you know the answer to this. Your boyfriends job is very honorable. If your parents don't like it, well, they don't have to live with him. However, it would be nice if you could come to a meeting of the minds. Your parents need to understand that by alienating you they are risking losing you as well as possible future grandchildren. That would be sad for everyone. They would be better served by accepting him and treating him well like anyone else in the family. After all, it's him that makes you happy. What was their goal in life for you if not to get your education, be self sufficient and happy? Just my two cents.

Answer 2

I wonder if your parents view of a persons worth has rubbed off on you. After all your boyfriend is JUST a food distributor.

My guess is that you are looking for someone to love but your not sure how to do that. You like this guy and its time you found someone long term. You should be honest with him about what you are feeling. Maybe over time it will develop into something but right now you are forcing it.

If he really was your soul mate or your life partner then you wouldn't be asking this question. Relax give it some time.

Answer 3

Well I think part of the problem is even evident in how you put your question. 'I'm an engineer, my boyfriend is just a food distributor.' These says as much about how you feel about this. My parents ended up quite well off as they started working in the retail area and ended up owning their own business. My brothe inlaw is an engineer and would not have $1 if you asked for a loan. He may just be a distributor now but who knows what he will be in the future. My own husband had $300 and a bashed up car to his name when I met him. We know have our own business. If you are of age and want to be with this boy then tell your parents to pull their heads in. And remember an honest living is what counts and dont label people

Answer 4

If you are an engineer you are an adult and self supporting so why are you letting your parents dictate your life still? You have to take charge of your situation. You do not need your parents approval or acceptance to live. If that man is a decent man doing a legal job and works like he's supposed it shouldn't matter what job he has! His employment does not say who he is it's how he lives his life and treats you. Mom and Dad need to butt out.

Answer 5

Your parents need to stop running your life and you need to stop letting them. You are an adult and they can either except or not your choice of a mate. If you love this man just tell them that you do and that is that.

Answer 6

Love is like war:easy to begin but very hard to stop!The trouble with the parents is they don't realise the world's moved on.My father's forever quoting "the older you get,the wiser you get".When he says that,I just point out that he can't even use a mobile phone.
Do what u fell ....is better..!

Answer 7

Exactly, he is YOUR soulmate, YOUR best friend, YOUR life partner, not theirs. He is going to be YOURS for the rest of YOUR life, it is up to YOU who YOU choose to spend the rest or YOUR life with. They won't be with him, so they have no choice. My case is the opposite, my hubby is the one with the degree and I don't have one, but both of our families were supportive because it is not up to them who I spend my life with. As long as your man is a good person, with a good head on his shoulders, has just as much a good work ethic without a degree as someone with, I don't see the problem. If he busts his butt, pays bills on time, makes extra payments if possible or saves money, then he is just as good without a degree as he is with. I knew a girl that took 7 years of failing her butt off and then passing just to get her bachelors, and she managed to put herself $30,000 in dept becase of poor decision making, and she threw a hissy fit to her mom becase she had to move back home like a little kid. She was pregnant with her abusive boyfriends baby, whom left her because they got pregnant. So there could be a guy with a degree and be a big problem and a total @ss. You need to tell your parents NO. They'll be pissed and your heart will race and you'll be scared, but once they realize they can't controll you for the rest of your life, you'll fell better about yourself and the decisions you make. My parents were the same way, they actually tried to punish me for moving out on my own to become independant and they tried to guilt me into moving back home, with things like, "your mother's in school and it's selfish of you to leave her to clean the house, cook the meals, do the laundry". It took me a looooong time to tell them to F@ck &ff, but once I started ignoring them, and making my own decisions against their will, it got a lot easier. I hoped I help!! GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 8

IF YOU ARE BOTH ADULTS THEN WHY DOES IT MATTER
HOW YOUR PARENTS FEEL ABOUT HIM, IF YOU LOVE HIM
THEN THAT ALL THAT MATTERS.YOU PARENTS DONT HAVE
ANYTHING TO SAY ABOUT IT. BUT IT REALLY SOUND LIKE
YOU HAVE ISSUES WITH HIS WHAT HE DOES FOR A LIVING
YOUR PARENS MAY FEEL THAT HE NOT GOOD ENOUGH
FOR YOU. AND IT SOUND LIKE YOU FEEL THE SAME.
YOU STATED HE JUST A FOOD DISTRIBUTOR.

Answer 9

if you're an engineer, than i assume you are an adult? why are you letting your parents decide who you can and cannot date. maybe its best if you cant make your own decisions to listen to them

Answer 10

ask your self if you love him want him to be the father of your children and you want to spend the rest of your life with him , if the answer is yes yes ye s go against them