How can you retain your virginity if you had sex multiple times?

Question

Okay, I was married for 5 years and he was the only man I had been with but he was very small (penis wise). When I first experienced the man I'm married to now....I felt the pop inside of me and there was blood everywhere. He felt it too and said that it was the hymen...he'd been with virgins before. So, my question is, if my first really was too small to reach it even though we were together so long......would it still be considered virginity the second time?

Answer 1

Once you have sex, you're not a virgin. Just because it didn't pop the first time doesn't mean you were still a virgin. Just means he was too itty bitty to break the kitty

Answer 2

That is a tough one. Everyone always says that if you don't have sex for 7 years then your body goes back to where it was when you were a virgin. I'm not sure if I believe this but I have never gone without for 7 years. Truly though I think that you weren't a virgin after the first time you had sex. I think this because your virginity is something that you give up when you decide to have sex for the first time. In your mind you say this that I have I want to give to you or I want you to have this. To me it's more of a mental thing. Hopefully these thoughts can help to give you a different perspective. Also good for you for upgrading in the penis department.

Answer 3

Physically, maybe.
But emotionally you are not a virgin. Being a virgin is as Madonna once said "touched for the very first time" so there you go, the first guy was unable to "pop your cherry" so the second time, it was probably easier, and you actually broke your hymen this time.

Answer 4

Oh this is an easy one---YOU CAN'T. Contrary to those ridiculous group therapy organizations or 'Born Again' Christians groups that claim that through prayer or abstinence you can somehow become a virgin again, you cannot. Those groups are organized simply to give people that previously had low morals to somehow magically think they can turn back the hands of time and become virgins again. Of course you can repent of moral transgressions, confess them to the proper priesthood authority and be forgiven, but you are NEVER a virgin again. Once its gone it's gone.

You can't unring a bell.

Answer 5

Medically, yes as long as a hymen is intact you are 'technically' a virgin. But really? No. You have experienced sexual intercourse which is what we define as losing your virginity. many girls break their hymen by doing things like horse back riding, active sports, or using a tampon but we consider them virgins if they haven't had intercourse. So even though your hymen was intact I wouldn't consider you a virgin.

Answer 6

Just because your hymen didn't break that doesn't mean you were a virgin, but that is the craziest thing I have ever heard and I must say girl, you were gypped for 5 years

Answer 7

Intercourse is still intercourse. He penatrated you with his penis, i.e. intercourse. Now, you can NOT have your hymem and still be a virgin....you can lose your hymen horseback riding, sports, etc. Your hymen does NOT decide virginity.

It's a great question! I feel bad for the "small penis" guy! LOL!

Answer 8

no i wouldnt think it was virginity the second time around. if you had sexual intercourse then your not a virgin. penis in vagina contact is still sex so you lost your virginity to your first husband. your hymen just didnt tear.

Answer 9

In a sense... perhaps... but the Hymen and Virginity could be
confused as the same when they are not.

Answer 10

No You are no longer a virgin after yuo have had sexual intercourse with a man. Your EX just did not get the job done that's all. I'm quite sure you are happy that you feel somehting that fills you up. ;) ;)