Went to a wedding. Outside venue (didn't know it was going to be outside in 95+ degree heat + high humidity). When reception started. Dinner was to be served. 80% of guests were served INSIDE and 20% or less were served outside. Of course, bridal party was seated and served inside. Should all guests be seated in same room or building? Is there some sort of etiquette rule about this???
2006-10-03 17:34:33 · 16 answers · asked by sgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
that's pretty awful.
yes, there is a rule about treating all your guests the same. (you can't serve steak at the head table and meatloaf to everyone else, for example)
it sounds like they planned their event poorly.
2006-10-03 18:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it depends on the type of wedding. I have never been to a wedding where I was in my seat for more than 5 minutes so I really didn't care where I sat. I was recently a bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding and there was a problem with the weather (it rained) and the outside tarp was not strong enough to hold all of the water. The choice was to move some guests inside for the meal and not get them soaked, or let them eat a soppy dinner. They didn't seem to mind. Plus nothing goes on at the dinner portion of a wedding except people eating. Who cares. We all ended up on the dance floor and at the bar as soon as it opened anyway. As a matter of fact, when they served the cake, there was no one outside where the dining area was. We were partying.
If it were my event, though, no I would not have done that. Then again I don't want a bunch of people who I don't care about at my wedding anyway, so it will be quite small where we can all talk to each other.
2006-10-04 01:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by crazyhippylover121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the venue was a rented professional spot then I would say either seat all guests inside or seat them all outside but do not split them up as you mentioned -- its rude. I'm sure they probably didn't know before hand what the weather was going to be like but they should have considered that when they booked the place and should have made sure they booked a large enough room to accommodate all the guests.
If the venue was someone's home then they probably had to make due with the space they had available to them.
2006-10-04 00:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Zari A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how nice and romantic it would have been to sit outside if the weather was nice, bridal party was walking around, and guests seated outside were able to go inside, etc. My boyfriend and I like to sit outside at restaurants. But, considering the heat, I would have defiantly not done that-- that's very rude.
2006-10-04 00:38:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone should be seated together, it's like saying "Ok, we don't really care as much about you guys, so sit outside in the heat while we go and eat in a lush, air conditioned building." It's extremely rude
2006-10-04 00:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes the guests and wedding party should all be seated togetrher,, that way you can enjoy the bride and groom just as much as every one esle,, how rude and in sestive of the couple to do that to some of thieir guests,,,
2006-10-04 02:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by thanks to our brave troops, 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the people outside probably felt a little left out. But i personally wouldn't have done that because i wouldn't want people to think i was intentionally being picky or mean or something. it just reminds me of that whole classes, hierarchy of friends thing.
2006-10-04 00:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Nike W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people went to the wedding to be there for them they should atleast get to eat in the same room with them. but if more showed up then they had planned for the reception then they obviously had no other choice then to put them outside..atleast it wasn't raining
2006-10-04 00:37:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine everybody should be in the same building especially if its hot outside!
2006-10-04 04:59:26 · answer #9 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. imagine if you were placed on an outside table and had driven hours to get there. thats just rude and inconsiderate. plus unorganised.
2006-10-04 00:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋