I've been in relationships and have had great men,but it seems that i find myself bored with them all at some point,my feelings fade,and it's not they have cheated or anything severe but i just don't have that " omg i can't stand not to be with u feeling" anymore....is this normal? Doe's this mean I don't really "love" them? Is "true love" suppose to always exciting? Help!!!
2006-10-03 17:26:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it's normal. like a cycle we go through. upon meeting our new partner we are in the honeymoon stage and everything is new and exciting. after awhile things calm down a bit as we get used to them. some people stay in this stage or leave (which is what you sound like) or others push through and realise that the person their with has many other qualities they like and get to learn about these and enjoy them for the person they are.
you being bored or losing your fondness for your beau isn't anything new or strange, but maybe you just don't give it enough of a go to see wha the person really has to offer. maybe you just get off on the excitement of a new man in your life and once that has faded then you move on. i personally think this is being fickle and not being fair to both of you.
be honest to yourself and try to go out with your next bloke for the right reasons, that is things you believe he has that will be worth your while longer than the times you've had already. if you don't you'll continue on this cycle and constantly be destructive to yourself in that you'll get bored quicker and quicker and before you know it you'll be the only person left who can stand you.
sorry for being so blunt, but i think you have the control and you must do things to help yourself. if it happens with every bloke then it's a huge coincidence if the problem is with each and every one of them.
do some soul searching and i wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-03 17:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by pugsbaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The initial feelings you've had are infatuation and infatuation always fades to feelings of mediocrity or disinterest. Your feelings are normal. Perhaps you are looking in all the wrong places, or at least at the wrong men. True love is exciting on many different levels. Look for someone with whom you have many things in common and whom you feel comfortable with... someone who is more like a best friend than anything else. And if you can throw into the equation a deep physical attraction to this man, and if he feels the same way about you, you will have all the ingredients for true love.
The more you have in common, the more you will have to talk and laugh about. And if you are deeply attracted to each other, that feeling will last throughout the relationship. It may fade temporarily as daily life has it's ups and downs, but your friendship and love will carry you through those times until the attraction returns.
Don't settle for less than that omg feeling. You'll be divorced if you do. Don't settle for boring and mediocre when you can have exciting true love.
2006-10-03 17:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you probably don't or never did love any of them.
It sounds to me like you're excited by the idea of a new experience and when the experience is complete or satisfied you move on.
Is it normal, yes, everyone goes through their own phases in relationships, being bored with someone is one of them.
When you run into "the right one" you'll know it, everything you experience now will go on much longer and run much deeper than the superficial feelings you have currently.
2006-10-03 17:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by KIRRA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every relationship takes work. but if your finding that your just getting bored with them than yes its not love. Love is something that you want more and more of. And you will find him if you just dont plan on it. People who are constantly looking for love are those who push themselves into relationships and forcing it to be love when its not. So just enjoy life and when its your day to fall in love you will know it, and you will not be bored with him, you will want to spend lots of time with them, yet you still are going to want time away from him but always want to come back and want a long time relationship.
2006-10-03 17:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love has multiple feelings and reactions associated with it. I'm completely and totally in love with my husband but there are times when our normal things bore me. This is the time when I buy a sexy outfit, do something creative or unexpected. Catch him off guard and add a little spice to it. If you are "in love" with someone you'll know it...there will be no doubt in your mind or heart.
2006-10-03 17:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by ladywolf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may confer with this guy. furnish to take him out to lunch and whilst the two considered one of you're on my own, tell him the form you sense approximately him. enable him be attentive to you omit being in a relationship with him, and you have been questioning if he felt an identical. not something will ease your thoughts, like the actuality, no be counted if that's stable information or undesirable. only because of the fact he nonetheless loves you, does not propose he desires to be committed to you, the only way you would be attentive to for particular is that in case you come good out and ask.stable luck!
2016-10-01 22:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may not be ready to settle down with one guy for a long period of time yet....or the right guy hasn't grabbed your attention yet. my advice though, love is not exciting all the time.....but when you know you're really in love (because being in love and loving someone are different) there will be a difference in how you feel.
2006-10-03 17:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by goldie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes - true love means you can't imagine living without that person... You can have so many relationships - it's all a learning experience - til you find the one you can't live w/ out!
2006-10-03 17:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love always excites me. You can have true love with many people on different levels.
2006-10-03 17:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is sticking together even when things aren't exciting. You don't have to laugh every moment to be in love. Also, maybe you haven't met HIM yet.
2006-10-03 17:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋