suicide or foulplay?

Question

my cousin who was very close to me,committed suicide a couple days ago, her boyfriend who was suppose to be away for the weekend found her..however,the way she did it is not like her,she put a sheet over her head then wrapped it with cord and hung her-self, she was depressed,boyfriend trouble and family......she had a dog,a dashund, and he killed it on her, he was abusive. she lived in a different state than her family,and recently she wanted to come home,she cried thats all she wanted to do...and now she is, just not alive. see....she wasnt the type to expect that from, we could see her maybe take pills or jump off something,i know suicide is suicide, but not the way she did it,not that horrible way. i dont know...maybe he had something to do with it................

i've never met him, but its not like her...

Answer 1

A someone who has investigated these circumstances and has had to inform families of what happened, let me tell you that your reaction is very common.

Obviously, I have no details or information about what happened to your cousin, other than the basic things you have told us here. With that, I can't tell you whether or not it was a suicide or a murder. Being familiar with investigations, you can probably be assured that it is what the police said it was. There is no more closely scrutinized event as an "unattended death", be it obvious suicide, obvious murder. If it is an unknown, it is srcutinized even more.

Most realitives I have talked to have either some denial or guilt about the suicide. Some have told me that there was "no way" that their sister would have committed suicide because of X, Y, or Z. Some have said there was no way that the victim would have "left them like that" or "done this to them". A lot of them were working on getting them out of abusive or bad relationships when they committed suicide. That is when a lot of the guilt comes in. They usually feel that they should have worked harder or faster to get the person out.

One of the problems that most of the families have is that they don't live close to the person anymore and don't really have all the facts like they think they do. Most of the victims have white washed their circumstances so as to not worry their families as much. As a result, you probably don't know the true depth of their pain or depression.

I wish you luck.

Answer 2

I agree with some of the other answers regarding how natural your reation and suspisions are. I also agree that this situaution is in fact what you're told it is.

However if you really feel strongly that you're experiencing is more than a knee jerk reaction, then based on what you said then I can see some cause for at least some minimal scrutiny. I the police have made thier final decision, then you'll have hire an outside source to reinvestigate the circumstances.

What would have to be done first is to review all the records, documents, photos, etc related to the investigation. Below is a basic list of steps one might take.

1. Review all the photos and videos taken as well as the medical examiners report. You're looking to see if their is any possible indication of a struggle (ie bruising that may suggest that there may have been a struggle). Does toxicology suggest she may have had a debilitating narcotic in her system thus negating any struggle. There is a plethoria of questions but theses are some of the basics.

2. What was the boyfriends reaction, was his alibi really but to the test. Did his initial interview give any cause for suspicion.

3. Read interview notes. Who was interviewed, what was said. Should anyone be re-interviewed, are there people who wer not talked to that should have been. You need info from others that may shed light on her behavior weeks, months, etc prior to incident. Do any suspects emerge or Does their testimony line up with a person spiraling downward emotionally becoming more and more willing to harm themselves.

I think you're getting the idea. The thing to really consider though is do you in your heart of hearts really feel there is cause to go deeper into this tragedy and asking others to re-live thier memories and yours. Do you really feel it is worth the additional pain, time and expense. Some time that answer is yes sometimes not. Only you can decide. My only hope is that your decicion will prayed out and thought out. You desicion should be based on reflection not reaction. You and your cousin's memory deserve that.

My Prayers and Blessings to you,
Joey

Answer 3

Sooo very sorry for your loss hon. As stated above, this is very typical reaction of a loved one when confronted by a suicide. It is harsh and hard and your feelings are not uncommon. Your sentence " now she is , just not alive" is attesting to your shock and disbelief. Know that what you are feeling is natural and accept that you are going to feel this for a while. It is like watching a tv show that comes and goes on and off and there is nothing you can do to turn that tv show off.
Her boyfriend sounds very abusive, and maybe he did/did not do it, but you need to leave that up to the police.I hate to say it, but it is probable that he did not. If they have already pronounced it a suicide, then there is nothing you can do, unless you have hard core evidence to suggest otherwise. You can ask them to take another look at it, mentioning the dog, or you can work on healing and moving forward in her memory. He will have to live with his own demons in the end, won't he?

Again, sorry for your loss--these things leave many victims in
their wake, but I hope you can recover and move forward.

God Bless.

Answer 4

sounds like foul play the fact that she alwys said she wanted to go home and that he was away for the weekend mekes it even more suspisious.... but i didnt know her or her boyfriend so i cant really say much....... maybe u never liked her boyfriend and u wanna blame him for her death.. have u talked with her boyfriend maybe his reactions would give u a better prespective of the situation .....what ever u do make sure u dont let your pain make u do or think something that will get u in trouble.... no sense in 2 good lives getting ruined by the same problem

Answer 5

While i learn a piece of writing, i remembered a scene from The Bruce Lee Story. Bruce was once attacked by way of humans who didn't wish, or like, that he was once popularizing the martial arts within the West. I wonder whether the equal factor could have occurred to David. The exhibit Kung Fu was once Lee's concept, he did not get the side. I do not consider it is approximately cash in any respect.

Answer 6

sorry to hear about your loss. first i dont even understand why she needs to take her own life for that low life boyfriend of hers. Come on! there are billions of other guys in the world! what so special about this boozo?
To actually acertain the caused of death you must call the CSI team. I think the CSI team from Las Vegas are the best. If the CSI can't solve this case nobody will!
P.S : I hope they find out that the boyfriend is the culprit involved!

Answer 7

Any death that is not medically attended will require an autopsy, and they can almost always tell the difference. The police will investigate too since it wasn't medically attended. Just hang in there and let the proper authorities do their job. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

let the police investigate..this was a serious matter