i recently met this guy and we really hit it off so i though now he won't call me i called him only once and he didn't pick up i am not the type of girl to keep trying or waiting i don't need to be hurt again if he isn't serious about me should i just wait and see if he calls or forget about him? when i kissed him good bye i thought about my ex so i know that i got issues with not being able to move on but i am willing to try if he is truely willing to put in the effort that doesn't mean calling me all the time or wanting to hang out all the time i have my own life to live also and i want him to live his too but i just want someone to like me for who i am and walk me to my door
2006-10-03 17:17:25 · 16 answers · asked by going2md 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep dating and if he comes around fine if not your gonna find the one soon enuff.
2006-10-03 17:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Waitaminute.
You "recently" met this guy. Why are you putting so much pressure on yourself? Maybe he has a life. Give him the space he needs. The last thing a guy wants is a clingy, needy girl with emotional issues (unless he has them too, which is not good for either of you anyway).
There's nothing wrong w/thinking about ur ex when u kissed him because that's a very normal thing (assuming it was a fairly recent breakup). If you think about him too much, though, when ur with this new guy, then it's really not fair to the guy OR to yourself.
I think you should take a step back, only communicate with him once or twice week TOPS for at least the first month or two. If he really likes you he WILL put forth the effort. You've already put forth your effort, now it's his turn to step up to the plate. Give him a few days. He could be traveling somewhere, he might have something going on such as sports or whatever.
Give the man his space and don't put too high expectations on this. Sorry you were hurt. I hate to write this but it's not going to be the last time. It's part of life and that's the risk and chances we take anytime we meet someone new. Just don't put too much emotional investment in this until some time has passed. It's too early to put this kind of pressure on him, on you, and on this dating thing.
Rod
2006-10-04 00:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone gets hurt its really hard for them to trust another and get into a serious relationship. You need to know when you are really ready, why not spend time not looking for mr right and enjoy lifes other pleasures such as hanging out with your good friends and meeting new people. Travel places and do things that you normaly wouldnt do, when your having all of this fun and not worrying if your going to find mr right, that when he comes and finds you. And than you will know if you are ready, you will let someone into your heart again and you will be able to trust and love them, it will take some time, but i am sure he will understand and prove to you that you are the only one for him. And thats when you look back at your ex and realize that, that relationship was for you to learn from and that you are now happy that it didnt work out because if it didnt you wouldnt of found this one which is the one your meant to be with.
2006-10-04 00:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand perfectly what you are feeling...i have kind of had my feel of being hurt and used my guys...i just seem to like to sit home alone and watch tv...talk to some online...but have been hurt so much i do not even want to meet any of them..why i stay on there i do not know...you are young yet ...try to toughen yourself up...and hope you find someone that cares for you like you do for him...i know one thing do not waste your years on a abusive man ....get away from it...or a control maniac...
2006-10-04 00:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wait for the guy to make his move. And if you don't want to get hurt again, make sure you use your head and not just your heart. People always get hurt because they don't use their head.
2006-10-04 00:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would let him go ... your not ready to move on yet, you need time to heal ... get over your ex so your not thinking of him while you are kissing another guy .... which is something they can sense ... if he felt you slip away he won't call back .... he'll feel your just not into him.
2006-10-04 00:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems now your love life with him is cooling down,as he didn't answer your call...just forget about him
2006-10-04 00:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Larisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when was the time you saw him? maybe he got vibs about your ex, but if you guys hit it off, give it a little time and see if he calls you. at least he knows your interested.
2006-10-04 00:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is no interest from his side. Ignorance from the beginning cant build anything.
Move on - forget about the dumb.
2006-10-04 00:21:41 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hun i'm gonna say somthing i hope doesent hurt you feelings,i just call a spade a spade,it really souns like to me, that your a "prude"
2006-10-04 00:22:28 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋