Okay, so i've been in love with this guy since last march. When we met he was single and told me he liked me, i however was unsure about how i felt. He ended up dating another girl but over time we began to get really close. There's this undeniable magnetic connection between us that i dont even understand, maybe it's that we're both artists and understands eachother beyond a superficial level..whatever it is though..i'm drawn to him. I ended up dating a friend of his after he left our job (im 18 by the by) which was purely accidental..i didnt even know they knew eachother until later. Needless to say he wasn't happy, and after me and his friend broke up..he told me he had been jealous. He told me that he had these feelings for me which despite trying he couldnt overlook and that he was fatally attracted to me. However he also said he was in love/happy with his girlfriend and would stay with her..but then he kissed me (he'd never been disloyal b4). i wont be T.O.W. but im just confused
2006-10-03 17:13:24 · 12 answers · asked by luckmess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Obviously he's risking alot by kissing me (his friendship and girlfriend) and i want to think he cares beyond a booty call if he's never been unfaithful before. I don't know what to do though..i don't want to be the other woman.. i honestly have very strng feelings forhim though which i havent been sucessful at getting over. Do you think he's just messing with me or that he might care? Do you guys think i should wait around and keep pursuing (without helping him cheat? I'm so lost..help!?
2006-10-03 17:19:15 · update #1
What do you do when you keep falling in love with dead ends?
I don't, you do.
2006-10-03 17:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
read the book - hes not that into you.
If he was "into you in a good way ;) " he would break it off with the other girl and be with you. correction - he would have ALREADY done so with out you asking him.
He's not - becasue he really isn't in love with you.
anything described as "fatally" isn't good !"
love is not obssesive - is true, kind, and about somone loving you enough to care about your feelings- he isn't into you or her - he likely isn't ready to be with anyone - becasue he is selfish.
love is "sefless not selfish"
RUN GIRL RUN to the nearest container of chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream have a cry fest - then wake up tomorrow and FORGET him. You are only drawn to him if you want to be - its a CHOICE.
Don't waste your precious youth on a man who is selfish or any man at all. Find a muse for your art outside of a romantic relationship - travel the world - study - dance in the rain - sit under an autumn tree... when the right man comes along you won't be to busy to notice (busy being with the wrong man)
2006-10-04 00:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kay M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh, young love. It's like a breath of fresh air. O.k.....for alot of us - the timing is never quite right for both people to be available to start a relationship. A never ending string of movies about love and heartache should let you know that you're not alone. Watch the movie Serendipity.
2006-10-04 00:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by bardstale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a deadbeat because he obviously can't be straight with you or himself. People who play games like this always pull BS like this and then they're so called happy with who they're with yet making a play for that person they always wanted. This is called wanting their cake and eating it too. Women always fall for this craziness men put them through. Women need to set boundaries and limits with men and let them know in the door that you're not playing games. When men see those women who have zero tolerance of the games and BS they will either stay with who they're with or move on to someone who will put up and deal with the games. If this guy is going to play games call the shots and check mate him straight out of your life you deserve better than him.
2006-10-04 00:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is only one situation, how can you say that you "always" fall for dead ends?
He's worse than a dead end, he's a cheater and a user of women. Your best bet is to fall out of love and find someone else. You're only 18.
2006-10-04 00:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy needs to break the f*ck up with his current girl to date you. He's a cheater, which is something that can't be forgiven. If he did it with you, he'll do it with someone else if he's ever with you.
"But Stevo, how can you say that? He's totally what I want and in love with me, and was completely loyal to his current girlfriend!"
Yeah.. once he goes out with you and is totally loyal to you, someone else will come along and he'll be attracted to her and this same mess will ensue, except you'll be in his current girlfriend's shoes.
2006-10-04 00:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try to figure out why it is that you would put so much time and energy and thought into a guy who is not available to you. Why bring such turmoil into your life?
2006-10-04 02:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a girlfriend, so don't try to go after him. You already him mad because you dated his friend, and he is probably still jealous after that. You should probably move on.
2006-10-04 00:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you know the next guy wants a relationship and ready to get serious..make sure your ready too...don't worry about him, just go find Mr. Right...
2006-10-04 00:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i cant understand a girl as beautiful as yourself falling in love with a dead end
2006-10-04 00:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋