Alright, here's the deal everyone. There is this girl in one of my classes that I think is absolutley amazing. I swear I had one of those corny movie moments where time seemed like it was going in slow motion the first time i saw her. I'm able to talk to her no problem, but when it comes to somehting like asking her out, I tend to shy away a little bit because I really like this girl, and kinda don't want to screw it up. If anybody has some tips or advice, I would greatly appreciate it - thanks a lot.
2006-10-03 16:40:18 · 26 answers · asked by JCapaldi86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her to do something little first, like grab a soda or coffee after school.. take little steps.
2006-10-03 16:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you act to nervous, too shy, or (ironically) too excited around her, you send off a desperate vibe that is unattractive.
You are more likely to succeed if you tell yourself that no matter what happens, it is no big deal -- there are other girls out there -- so relax!
Approach people with a self-confident smile that implies that you already know that they will like you, and it becomes a self-fulling prophecy since your positive attitude will be catching. Make sure that you make consistent eye contact, because that implies interest in the other person (always flattering), and it implies self-confidence (the opposite of fearful & needy). If you feel shy, look away from her across the room like you are looking at someone else. Do NOT do what most guys do -- do not look down when you are shy becuse she will think that you are looking at her boobs and she will get offended.
BTW, if you find yourself staring at a cute girl, and she looks up and sees you looking at her, do NOT do what most guys do; most guys in this situation will get shy and immediately look AWAY. If you read girls responses on Y!A, you will notice that this freaks girls out. If she sees you, ALWAYS maintain eye contact no matter how scary it seems, until SHE looks away. This makes you look confident. After that, do not keep looking at her. Ignore her and go talk to other people. She will probably come over and talk to you in order to see what's up.
2006-10-03 23:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you're too emotionally invested already with someone who is still a stranger. So you "liking" her isn't based on much. Secondly, you've got a bad case of tunnel vision, meaning that you FEEL like you have to work it out with this girl. You're 2nd biggest issue is that you're worried TOO much about the outcome. By worrying too much on what to say and you don't want to "screw it up" is what's really messing up your game.
When you talk to her tap her gently on the shoulder. If you she touches you back within 5-15 minutes then she probably is at least interested. Ask her to meet you for some coffee / soda/ or for a walk at the local mall. This way you can meet up and QUALIFY her and see if she is even someone you'd really like to get to know.
Men usualy fall into the tunnel vision trap thinking they really like someone because of the way they look and they begin developing positive feelings toward the person even after one or a few interactions when in REALITY you really don't know the person yet. This is why you should just man up and tell her that you're going to grab a bite and that she should come with you. This way you're not asking her just to go out with you per se because you framed it as something you were going to do anyway.
That way you are coming from a place of power instead of weakness and having no game.
Good luck my man,
Rod
2006-10-03 23:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try starting a conversation that you cant finish and just real casual say lets go grab a coke. this will either get a sorry i cant today or an ok. a date doesn't always start out a date it can be a drink. then if it goes alright either ask her out for another drink or even to see a movie you can both talk about. the main thing is not to let her know how important it is for a yes.you may have to try it several times but she may say yes right away.
2006-10-03 23:55:08 · answer #4 · answered by josh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe for the first time, a double date or group date where several of your friends meet at the movies or something. You didn't say your age. Are you a teenager or someone older in colllege? At least on one of these dates you can feel more comfortable and the conversation will be easier.
2006-10-03 23:45:18 · answer #5 · answered by seekinghisface1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you have a shot with her, just ask her out. Maybe pass her a note in class? Most girls would think that was cute and sweet. Being nervous or shy will not turn most girls off- she'll probably be flattered. Or, you can ask one of your friends to ask one of her friends what they think?
2006-10-03 23:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sam3931 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have no problem talking to her...start out with that. Find out about her, what she likes, dislikes, see if there is anything that you have in common, something to build on, before you officially "ask her out". After conversing with her you may see that you are better off as friends.
2006-10-03 23:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by stuckondaeastcoast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Ask her out. Life is too short to sit back and not ask. The worst that could happen is that she says "no." At least you would know one way or another how she feels.
2006-10-03 23:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by sizzle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to go to a football game with you, or someplace where there will be lots of people. Just be yourself and work on the friendship first.
2006-10-03 23:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to go for it. If she is going to accept she will now or later. Maybe she feels the same about you but if you dont ask you will never know. Someone else may beat you to it, if she doesnt know you like her.
2006-10-03 23:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋