when do you talk to your kids...?

Question

when do you think you schould have the dreaded sex talk with your kids?

Answer 1

Whenever you feel it is right. My son is five and I have been dropping little bits of the whole story for some time now. Meaning that he knows only girls can have babies and that they grow in their bellies. I have told him that they have to have a boyfriend or a husband first but not too much more than that. Once he understands his "little man" more I think then I can tell him maybe a little more what it is used for. I am very close with him and I think the earlier you do it the better as it is less akward for both of you. When they are younger you are simply giving them information but when they get older they will NOT want to hear it coming from you and will feel uncomfortable sometimes.

Answer 2

Right Away. No age is too young it is just what you talk about that makes the difference. Start with animals like rabbits, bees, dogs, cats whatever. This will help your kids come to talk to you about anything. Only talk about what they are ready to hear. You can not force the talk with them they will resent it and close down. Start real small, build upon that in a 6 months timeframe. When the questions open up answer then in an innocent way. Never talk about sex in an ungly way. Explain that Mom and Dad love each other, their bodies get together and mommies can get pregnant and have babies. If you child is a teen believe me they know what is going on. All you need to do is talk talk talk about safe protected sex and when it is right and when it is wrong. My boys did not have sex until they were late teens. They knew it was not the right time. Now one is married and the other looking.
Good Luck

Answer 3

I don't think you should dread something so natural, that's a terrible message to pass onto your kids.

Tell them when they ask. If your girls haven't asked by the time they get the period talk (better make it early age 9 or 10), then have the talk at that time. If the boys haven't asked by that time, its a good time then too because the girls will start talking and the boys will be wondering what's going on.

However, if they asks questions earlier, then answer appropriate for their age.

Answer 4

These days, kids start so early that having a preliminary sex talk (meaning not so graphic and w/o showing how to use a condom, but definitely talking about pregnancy, and kissing) at age 10 would be appropriate. Have the "real" sex talk at age 12.

Answer 5

they are 7 and i have introduced a few little things like what puberty does to the body ( not periods or wet dreams but basics) I guess when they ask questions you answer them in a simple way. Mind you they have asked a couple of times and I chickened out. My son asked what sex was. I asked why he was asking. He told me they were talking about it at school and one said it was kissing and the other said it was "other stuff". My daughter then piped up with "I know what sex is" with a big concern I asked her what she thought it was "LOVE" was the answer. I saw a quick out and said it was the way two adults showed their love and kissing was involved. They were happy with that and I breathed a big sigh of relief. I am not looking forward to the full detailed talk

Answer 6

Here were i live you have no choice but to discuss it early like 4th grade because our school has a sex ed class at this age..personally I think its different for each child..watch your children and when they are really 'crushing'' for my son 6th grade..he was getting phone calls all the time writing I love __________ all over the place so I took the time to talk to him again and remind him of something on the way to the movies one night..my daughter she is immature for her age she is in 3rd grade and still playing with dolls..and baby talking with her baby sister..and just doesn't even show she notices a difference..I think that you have the first talk early but keep bringing up every so often not so its nagging but just enough that they know you love them and are looking out for them STILL

Answer 7

I think you should be talking about sex all along. I actually read a book to my three year old that told EVERTHING (even orgasms). I was advised to do that because I was pregnant. If they never bring it up, you should bring it up every once in awhile, whenever it is natural. For example if a friend or relative became pregnant and was obviously showing, I would always bring up the reason for the change of appearance, and would take it as far as my child wanted to go. When they're in about 3rd or 4th grade, you should have a very practical discussion with your daughters about periods and all the sanitary products. same thing (at a little later age) with boys about pubic hair, beards, change in genitals, voice change, wet dreams etc . By this time, you should clarify with your child that he/she knows all the basic facts of reproduction.

My adult kids have grown up to be very conservative in their sexual behavior. We continue to be very open about discussing sexual matters.

Answer 8

kids are getting more an more smarter about sex and more aware i think depending on the child between 10 and 12 but of course not all the details save that till about 14 or 15

Answer 9

talk to them when they hit around 13. I know it's a scary thought but that's how young kids are having sex now. I'm 16 and my parents NEVER gave it to me and more than half the stuff I'm confused on so trust me and talk to them early like 12-13 no matter how akward or scary it is for you it will be for them too. But if you don't do it... You don't know what you'll have on your hands

Answer 10

When the ask or I talked to mine also before the school did in family planning classes (age 10). I rathered them to hear it from me and feel free to ask questions that I knew they would be embarrassed to at school. I just didn't give any more detail than necessary depending on age.