I've been chatting with this guy on Myspace for about a month. A week ago we finally met. He's everything he said he was. We had an awesome first date. Our 2nd date we hung around at his place watching movies and ended up making out pretty heavily. I mean feeling up and some pelvic thrusting but w/ all clothes on.
Are we moving too fast? Do you think he will think I'm easy for letting him feel me up so soon? This is pretty much how my first relationship started and he pretty much used me.
I'm 22.
2006-10-03 16:21:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow...uh that really sucks...is there no way i can sloooow it down a bit? Or is gonna already expect it?
2006-10-03 16:27:20 · update #1
wow thank you to you last 4 that really helped me out...I will seriously slow it down and hopefully I make this into a real relationship...
2006-10-03 16:29:47 · update #2
if you go to fast it's not going to go well. if you wan't a relationship slow things way down
2006-10-03 16:24:54 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's all you want is some booty then NO. If you're looking for something real and long term, slow it down a bit. Obviously, your last relationship didn't last from starting off like this so, maybe that's a hint it won't work like that this time around. Go slow, what's the big rush? A month is no where near long enough to fully know someone. You're young, if he doesn't want a long term relationship, no big deal! You'll find someone else! Respect yourself and stay true to yourself.
2006-10-03 23:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would slow down maybe a little. Even though you like him a lot and he didn't turn out to be one of those "blind dates gone all wrong", you may be making yourself a little to available. Play hard to get. Its nice you met on Myspace, but with all the stories and rumors going around about Myspace, you never know what kind of front he's putting. Maybe he's just acting that way to get what he really want: your booty [= Slow down, see what he's all about, then evaluate where or not he's a good candidate to further your relationship with.
melissa<3.
2006-10-03 23:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Yes, way too fast. What's the rush? Why not get to know the guy for awhile and then take things to a physical level? Bottom line is this: if you get physical too soon in a relationship it can set an unfavorable standard that is hard to break away from. You don't want to give this guy the impression that you only looking for a physical relationship, do you?
2006-10-03 23:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by lucydesi1940 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is, if this how your last relationship played out, why would you start this one off the same way? Learn from your mistakes- slow down a bit. If you do this with every second date you have, then where will you be? Get yourself a toy in the mean time! Lol!
2006-10-03 23:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by T P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way, way too fast. Men that are going to react like that aren't in it for a quality relationship. Stand your ground, be firm, and let him know you are not a doll her can throw around and use all he wants, and if he doesn't want to have a relationship w/ you he could leave. Although making out, that is also pretty fast, but I assure you he will be looking for more the next date if you don't slow things down and stand your ground. Hope the best for you!
2006-10-03 23:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by gibson1210120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.....your 22 years old, you've been on two dates, and you kept all your cloths on. I'd say you're doing fine. My suggestion...keep it all above the belt for another date or two, and if he's cool with that, then see what happens. Now if a girl goes all the way within the first few dates...i consider her someone I probably don't want to date long term.
2006-10-03 23:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Andy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down to at least the speed limit. It sounds like you guys have hit it off well. Just don't go so fast and miss your next turn in life. It is called a real relationship that is more than sexually oriented.
2006-10-03 23:28:27 · answer #8 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you should probably slow down a little until you get to know him better and find out what his real motives are. Don't feel bad though. Most all of us had made that mistake before.
2006-10-03 23:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by lucy02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowing down won't hurt but, there is no real way of knowing someones intentions. What do you think of him? After all, you felt him up too! Do you think he's easy? I hope you get my point. Why not express how you feel to him and evaluate his answer? Good luck, hope it works out.
2006-10-03 23:26:13 · answer #10 · answered by willno74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I mean this is your second date and you really don't know this person regardless of how long you have talked to him for. Where do you think pedophile come from....they make you trust them and use them. Plus if you are already feel odd about it considering your old relationship...then you already had your answer. Your just looking for someone to tell you what to do. Rely on your own instincts and if he doesn't' want to wait...then you have your answer...he only wants you for sex.
2006-10-03 23:27:14 · answer #11 · answered by cocoa198517 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋