Here's the story, I love porn and I buy porn and I wanted to go to the store to buy some and I wanted my boyfriend to go with me so we can pick one out together and watch it well he kept telling me he doesn't really get into porn like that and was not all that thrilled about going to get some. Well we finally went and got some and he watched it with me and he just acted like he was bored by it. So after that I didn't press the issue anymore about watching it with me. Now I am finding that he is going online looking at porn sites and watching the porn that I got without me and hiding it from me and when it comes to our sex life it's like he has to work himself up mentally to have sex with me as if he is just doing it just to keep me quiet because we only have sex when I get angry at him about something. He is nice to me in every other way but when it comes to the bedroom he makes it seem like it is a chore. And I want to spice things up but he doesn't, what should I do?
2006-10-03 16:14:57 · 16 answers · asked by deathtolove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't watch porn everyday and as far as spiceing up our sex life I mean trying different positions, foreplay, things like that. When I ask him to do try new things with me he says no.
2006-10-03 16:38:57 · update #1
This is why your dating sweetie. Don't think he will be your cup of tea in the end. I'm probably much older than you and wish I had this type of board when i was young. but my ex husband too didnt' like to watch porn. And would get upset if i even looked at another man let alone see one undressed. and Yes about just going through the motions. he probably has a low sex drive.
and if yours is on the higher spectrum this won't work out in the long run. Some men can love you and do lot of things for you other than furfill you in the sac. and want you as a cleaning woman and to have babies with. But if you like sex its important your guys into it too.
Good luck
2006-10-03 19:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but it sounds to me like you started this problem yourself. Why do people watch porn anyway, its soooo stupid. Oops sorry huh yeah back to the subject. First of all I would not call watching porn "spicing up your sex life" If you are going to do all of that then you might as well just find another women that you think your boyfriend would be interested in physically and take her home in a bow for him to have his fun with. But realistically lose the porn. There are lots of ways to spice up your sex life without porn. I wont embelish on that but I am sure you have an imagination. Think of something that you think he would like but that you have never tried before. There are also books about different sexual positions and techniques that you both might find very interesting. Hell if nothing else make your own porn together thats fun. If your boyfriend usually isnt into porn and you watch it all the time and now he is sneaking around to watch it without you then something has gone seriously wrong in ya'lls relationship and you definately need to sit down and talk about it. If I were to guess he has probably been wondering why it is that you want to watch porn all the time, he may be thinking that you find him unattractive and use it as a stimulate like most people do. To some people myself included porn is a complete turn off. I feel like if my significant other needs to watch that crap to be able to have sex with me then we just dont need to be doing it if its that big of a ordeal. That's why we started making our own porn lol now he can watch it and I wont feel like my husband is having an erotic affair with the TV.
2006-10-03 23:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by April C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I'd find another guy. Heaps of men would line up for a girl they could watch porn with. That guy is taking you for granted. Ditch him and let another man come along who will be so happy and feel so lucky to have a woman who will not only let him watch porn, but will appreciate it just as much as he will, and will thus have a great sex life. All the best!
2006-10-03 23:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is so accostomed to watching it alone that he was uncomfortable watching it with you. Further, it may be that, due to the impersonal nature of porn, your and his fascination with it may be the reason the he doesn't feel like have sex- it isn't a sacred thing anymore between two people.
2006-10-03 23:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sam3931 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my guess would be that he is just kinda humuliated by sex. The media and churches all preach to us that sex is bad making people feel degraded for performing sexual acts. Now im not saying its right to go screw on the street corner either, but I do thinkt hat he is someone embarrassed by it. If thats not the answer then he may be hiding something...
2006-10-03 23:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by sknilegap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be feeling that he can't "measure up" to what he feels YOU may be expecting (after seeing all that stuff on the screen... he's probrably thinking that THATS the kind of sex YOU want to have)... and he may not want to be compared... and I doubt you could convince him that you wouldn't DO that.... as for acting uninterested when you DID watch it together... did you expect him to get all sexy and stuff? Voyerism may not be HIS idea of a fun evening.... Hiding porn from you is probrably because he's TRYING to "learn" what you want... in hopes of keeping you... and wants it to be His secret... not Sex ed time...
2006-10-03 23:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, he rather watch porn without you because he kind of feels like he is cheating on you with you in the room.
2006-10-03 23:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you need to leave his sorry booty before this gets even uglier.
There are more fish and ***** in the sea baby, and I bet even more men who would be willing to watch porn with you.
Just don't marry this guy.
2006-10-03 23:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by lovely diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's lost interest in you and no longer finds you sexy. I guess that's what happens when you become desensitized to "sex" by watching other people do it- it becomes a chore.
Better find someone new.
2006-10-03 23:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the Mall......... enter Victoria's Secret and Shop.... then go
to your local Adult Store and purchase items that meet your
fancy... Stop by the Liquor Store and pick up something smooth
and give it hell........
2006-10-03 23:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋