I have only 1 sister, and she is married to a man who abuses her physically and emotionally. She just recently started talking to me again. It had been about 3 months since she talked to me. Her husband and I had a confrontation and he told me to go to hell. He called me names from A-Z. My sister also told me many things that hurt and asked me to never look for her again. As much as it hurt me I left. I would call her and she never answered my calls. Now she comes back like nothing ever happened, she didn't even apologize. I told her I needed some time to think. Am I doing wrong for turning her away?
2006-10-03 16:11:40 · 4 answers · asked by singlemomintx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
don't turn your back on her....be there for her and by doing that...that will make you a much better person...i understand your pain and i understand you needing sometime to think....but you must look at her situation she's in a abusive relationship so you say....and you best believe her husband is playing a major part in this, as far as the name calling you could care less what he calls you. all that should matter to you is building your relationship back up with your sister...life is too short none of us are promised tomorrow....she 's the only sister you got...so make up with her so you don't have to live with any regrets *god bless*
2006-10-03 16:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by tanya m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you are not in the wrong at all. As far as her husband, he has no right to say anything hurtfull to you. You are not his wife,and he should be reminded that you, unlike your sister, will not accept him talking to you that way. If your sister is happy with her marriage, unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to change her mind on her choice of lifestyle.However, I do see that YOU have learned from HER mistakes.She will wake up in time and realize that he is a jerk, and hopefully, leave him. It is at this time that she will need your support the most.I would definitely, let her know my opinion of her husband and the way he treats her. But it is best to do this over the phone and not on his turf. He could possibly be stupid enough to try to hurt you.So be careful. You seem to be a very caring, loving person,who avoids confrontation.That is a good thing. Had he said those things to me, He would still be picking himself up and searching for his missing teeth. There is NO excuse for a man abusing a woman.Especially if YOU are not the one committed to him.She should have been on your side in this situation,and she was not.I do not blame you at all for avoiding her, and don't feel like you are the one in the wrong. I wish you the best of luck and hope that you'll carry a little of this with you in the future. If she stays in this relationship, you will be on guard for the next confrontation.
2006-10-04 16:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Regina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- absolutely not. That is very sad and I am sorry to hear that. She had no right what so ever to leave you hanging like that and worried about her. Saying sorry should be the least, and she didn't even do that! I would let her feel how you felt w/o any contact from her for 3 months. That is really wrong, I wish you the best of luck, and hope that things do get better!
2006-10-03 16:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by gibson1210120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell her that you really don't want to stay in touch as long as she's in this relationship because it's to painful for you to stand by and watch without intervening. However if she ever wants out she can call on you any time, day or night and you will help her any way you can.
2006-10-04 05:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋