I have seen questions on here, that have gotten some pretty mean answers. There is nothing wrong with alot of these questions, and hateful answers are completely uncalled for. I know, I know! We all have the right to answer whatever we want, but if you can dish it, you should be able to take it, and a good many of the people who give mean, hateful or judgemental answers seem to get their panties in a wad when someone calls them out on there comments. They can run their mouths in their answers, but if you IM them or send them an e-mail about their comments, they get offended or ticked off. If you said something nasty to someones face, you would expect them to comfront you, so why can't people take the backlash from their comments on here? It seems like it is mainly the people in parenting and religion sections. Parents are suppose to be more mature than that.
2006-10-03 15:58:04 · 18 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is not about not liking an answer. It is a need to defend yourself when a person makes an unfair judgement of you based on a brief glimps into your life, or someone who is cussing at you or just plain ol' being nasty. I chat with others on here alot and they agree with me on this issue. No one likes to have crap talked to them, and not be able to defend themselves.
2006-10-03 16:21:17 · update #1
Drives me insane. Someone typed THUMBS DOWN after I said chamomile is a natural relaxant. Someone asked about teething tablets and why they help their baby sleep. This person kept berating people, saying she had the bottle right in front of her blah blah, and it didn't have any nightshade in it. Ya think? I believe nightshade is a bit on the dangerous side, especially for little ones.
Sucks when someone feels the need to "call you out" in an answer that you know they're not going to even look back on. So you try to email them, just to see wtf their problem is. It's either not available, or it's not been confirmed.....if someone has a problem with me, I'd rather them email/IM me, that's why I have that option open. It's a Q&A forum for goodness sakes.....people need to relax.
2006-10-03 16:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by ★Fetal☆ ★And ☆ ★Weeping☆ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them. Why let them get your back up like this?
This is the Internet. Anything goes. You just have to accept that. We can't expect people to behave the way we want them to in here. That's unrealistic.
Some of us weren't brought up properly. Their parents have failed them. You, as a parent, can learn from this and ensure that you guide your own kids well.
And also teach them to be tolerant. Because if a parent can't accept the views of others, the kids'll pick it up and be the same.
I too don't understand your need to email or contact them just because you don't like the way they answer.
PS: It's not about defending yourself. You are giving those useless people an audience for the nonsense that comes out of their brains. Why validate their views by responding to them? If you ignore them, they'll know their opinions are worthless to others, and will crawl back into the hole they belong.
Take 'standanddeliver87' up there. If you respond to him, you're giving him a louder voice and encouraging him. Which will make him bolder and broadcast his views everywhere, including in the other Questions. Is that what you want?
And anyway, why are you so defensive? Live and let live. It takes all kinds of people to make the world. And since we're all here on this planet, we have no choice but to exist alongside everybody else.
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2006-10-03 23:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by Spica 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People don't understand how Q&A sites work. Sure, people have the right to answer however they want and they should expect to be called on it if they're rude. This site isn't just about answering questions but also about exchanging ideas. If I see a comment posted by someone then I may direct a comment to them or email them to discuss it further. I did this recently and the girl went off on me for being rude. I was far from rude and was simply responding to a comment she made. What did she expect from a site like this?
My biggest complaint is when people ask questions saying they're looking for opinions. But then they give a thumbs down to anyone who disagrees with them. So, what they're actually looking for is someone to agree with them and validate their own beliefs. They don't want opinions. They don't actually care what other people think or feel about a topic. They just want to feel validated in their own beliefs. That is more annoying than anything.
2006-10-03 23:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sadly some people have nothing better to do! I agree it is uncalled for and I get irritated too. If you are going to take the time to post a question obviously you want a legit answer. Why is that so hard for someone? It isn't like you get a prize for most points.
2006-10-03 23:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by sceptileptic 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How about taking the higher road and ignoring the rude, and undesireable answers. There have been plenty of times that I have wanted to leave comments but, I refrain because the last thing I need is someone looking for me...Know when to hold'em,know when to fold'em,know when to walk away, know when to run... Just turn the other cheek.
2006-10-03 23:37:45 · answer #5 · answered by larechiga26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, we have no idea whos at the other end. A 13 yr. old or a drunk 50 yr. old. Its not just in those two places. It happens through out. I guess you should consider the source and try not to let it get to you. There's all kinds of people on here and not all are bad.
2006-10-03 23:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by ascendent2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I can see the point of being a little bit sharp. But you're right, people who can dish it should be able to take it as well.
2006-10-03 23:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by Darko 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of the reason is that that is the way some of these people are. Another reason could be that that is how they talk in reality, even if they don't realize it, they sound hateful. And yet another reason could be that these people don't realize that they come off as being hateful when they write.
2006-10-03 23:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by n_burson 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i agree.i try my best not to give rude answers but there have been a few instances where i have. and i caught grief from someone on the question which really ticked me off. if you have something to say about my answers or anyones answer email them dont belittle them on the question thats rude too
2006-10-03 23:18:12 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do some people seem to expect that everybody will be nice to them?
I think we shouldn't ask personal questions of thousands of strangers if we aren't prepared to accept that there will be some unkind responses. For god's sake, you're asking a million strangers what they think about your life. If their responses bother you, then perhaps this isn't a good website for you to be on. You choose to ask questions, then you also choose to accept what we already know - that some people are going to either misread the question, or be unkind for no good reason. That's life.
2006-10-04 01:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋