very shy and i cant talk NEED HELP?

Question

ok so this girls is really shy, and so am I. heres the problem because shes used to having guys approach her and talk to her so she can mess around with them, the thing is im really shy and im known for "not talking." My mind simply can't think of anything to say and she said i make her uncomfortable by not talking and so she is quiet with me, but I really dont think of anything to say. She told me I seem too serious and I overreact because she was carrying a lighter. well most people think im funny and patient, smoking is just one of those things i dont tolerate and it wasnt that big of a deal because i kno she doesnt smoke she just thinks their cute idk lol. i let it go. stil the serious thing, i cant get over being shy, so i can show her the fun side of me everyone else gets to see. i need to fix this because shes my homecoming date, we have an akward feeling between us and I really need to get over it. I didnt think she saw me as the serious type, i thought she could tell i was shy

a i actually do go on and on. im not very shy once i get comfortable but at the beginning im very very quiet. she is also very funny and loud too, but shes waiting for me and im used to girls coming up to me because im shy. i can approach girls i kno well and be fine, but this girl im having trouble. obviously i ogtta make the move and talk to her. my mind just think of anything to say, i swear if it did i would say it lol. i could sit there all day and not say a word. how do i get my mind to work? lol

Answer 1

Just calm down, relax, and be yourself. don't let her know you are afraid to talk to her. treat her like a friend before you make a move, talk to her, get to know her. if she likes you back then she will see the good side of you. women, love when a man can be sensitive, but not too sensitive. they are going to want to know anything you are willing to tell her. but don't over tell her or you will bore her. well good luck

Answer 2

the more u work on urself, the better u will feel. *trust me*.

so having said that, work on:

1) your appearance: work out. exercise. take care of ur body. take care of ur skin. get new haircut. try on new clothes. buy Flattering, stylish clothes, make u feel good and look good.

2) your mind: study. read more. learn more about current events. find a hobby, and excel at it. the more u KNOW, the easier it will be for you to develop your own ways of thinking, as well as be able to TALK w/ others about it.

3) your relationships: as u build ur confidence in urself, and keep in mind to be Open Minded, Non Judgemental to others..... u will be able to speak out more, talk to ur friends, family members, practice talking about anything and everything u are learning, or find out what they are interested in. the more u practice, the easier it will be for u to do that with Strangers, or friends of friends, and not feel as shy...because remember, 1 & 2, u are already working on ur appearance and your brain, so u don't have as much to be "scared" about.

:) good luck...the more Positive attitude u have (remember, u can Always change something if u make a mistake, u can learn from it, u can always grow, and do something different tomorrow), the more opportunity u will have in ur life. confidence will lead to easier job interviews, class discussions, making friends, getting to know teachers, eventually Relationships and Girlfriends!! etc etc.... huge impact on ur life. but getting over ur shyness is the first step, and working on ur confidence will help u become less shy.

Answer 3

zzzz.... whoah sry what? u just have simple case of pussinitus cant date girls until u got the guts or become more socialble thats that.. just suck it up dont think about anything and just say something even if its blehbhelelhbhle

Answer 4

send a letter telling her your feelings and tell her you are really shy about the situation! send flowers!