2006-10-03 15:51:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can a loser ever win?
How can you stop the rain from falling?
What makes the world go round?
(Really old song, probably before your time...)
Oh, dear. I always hated broken hearts....they HURT!
Here's a short list that seems to help.
1. T I M E....lots of it. Depending upon who, what, how and when, it could take anywhere from a couple weeks to a few decades....and sometimes never.
2. I am guessing since you are discussing your loss on Yahoo Answers that your loss is the repairable type and that you just need a little TLC.
3. TLC it is! Nurture Yourself. Take some vitamins. Exercise. Read a book you've always wanted to. Get your hair done....and always buy a new pair of shoes. In other words, neutralize the feeling of rejection and worthlessness by validating yourself. Write down couple paragraphs of why you are a wonderful and unique person. Really study yourself! Write down your strengths, think about them and own them. No heartbreak can ever take these away from you - and in fact, may help them to grow.
4. Move on. Do not put your life "on hold" waiting to see if things will resolve and whatever you do, Do Not Chase Him/Her!!! Nothing could be more destructive. You will end up losing self-respect at a time when you can't afford to lose any! Feed the good in your life and starve the bad.
5. Pray, if you are ever so inclined. Ask for good things in your ex's life (believe me...sometimes this is HARD!) But go through the motions until it feels real. After awhile you'll realized that you have emotionally 'released' this person, and you will feel such freedom....you will feel huge.
Good luck - my heart is with you.
(I wouldn't be 25 again for anything!!!)
2006-10-03 16:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Foolhardysage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 18:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others.....u cant mend a broken heart it only takes time. but it helps to be around friends and family and keep your mind off of it and do not go back to him or her. if it dont work once and it hurt then think about how it will fell the secound time around. I was in a relationship for two years that i just got out of six months ago. it was really hard to begin with but just remember that in ten years youll hardly remember it until someone mentions it.
2006-10-03 16:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, and a lot of chocolate.
:)
I have been there before and it can be very hard to go through alone. Just make sure that you surround yourself with friends and familiar faces. Anyone close to you that comforts you and can make you laugh no matter what :)
Take time for yourself, watch your favorite movie with your favorite ice cream with your best friend and laugh about nothing all night.
Pamper yourself with a manicure, or do something new like a new haircut. Buy a cute new outfit and wear it out. If you have a favorite hobby like jewlry making, go take a class or buy some beads.
AND TALK TO SOMEONE! IT helps, really.
Make sure to keep yourself busy, and just try to keep him off your mind. I know it can be hard and I'm so sorry that you are having to go through all this hurt. If you ever need someone to talk to just email me.
Just enjoy yourself, ok? ;) You'll feel better.
2006-10-03 16:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by short n sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mend a broken heart by writing everything down about the person then burn the paper myself or have a friend burn it for you.
2006-10-03 15:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You spend a lot of time rehashing every aspect of your relationship, wondering what went wrong, asking yourself what you could have done differently. You stop going out, stop being fun to be around and stop caring about your personal appearance and hygiene. You don't talk to people because "Nobody understands you."
Then one day, you get tired of feeling low and pitiful and snap out of it. You realize that the person who broke your heart is probably not thinking about you at the moment and has gotten on with his / her life. You accept that it's over and you move on, otherwise known as Growing Up.
There's no way to sugarcoat it, it just takes time.
2006-10-03 15:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by allowing yourself time to grieve and not feel guilty by doing so, but do not take to long before getting involved in other activities, this will eventually lessen the pain, and allow you to move on. Do not dwell on what you should or should not have done. It hurts now, and since you cared, it is normal to be hurt, time will lessen the pain and one day your pain will be just a memory, and you will find happiness.
2006-10-03 16:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by RY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crazy Glue
2006-10-04 16:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by canadiancribmasterj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly wish I knew, as mine has been broken so many times I've actually lost count. :(( And yet, I continue to survive on this crazy planet. But I really don't know how.
2006-10-03 15:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chocolate is what im always told
but if you don't like Chocolate that could be a Promblem
but i've never got my Heart Broken so i could'nt really tell you
2006-10-03 15:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by cvc7chris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋