I don't remember this at all, but apparently I've wanted her dead ever since I was a little kid. She's insulting, she's hypcritical, she has absolutely no sense of personal duty, no consideration for others, and she always likes taking a stab at me at every possibility (especially in front of her friends). She never cleans up after herself, and she never wants to actually take care of her animals so I have to pick up the slack. She's been living with me and my brother for the last few months, but she's moved out since, and I've never felt happier about being alive. There are times I just want to throw her against the wall and beat the living sh*t out of her until she loses consciousness from lack of blood.
Is there anything I can do to stop hating her? Talking to her about her problems never helps (believe me, I've tried to).
2006-10-03 15:39:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm a guy, just in case anyone's wondering... (like What?... *lol*)
2006-10-03 15:47:21 · update #1
Unfortunately, I have a sister that is quite similar. I have relied on lots of time off between conversations, and at the first sign of a downward spiral, I end the discussion. If you truly hate her, I doubt that anything short of a good gesture from her to you will start the healing process.
2006-10-03 15:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by ctaalc2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming your older than her. What my brother and I did was try and find some common ground, and not so much make total peace, but a peace of sorts, that you can tolerate her. My brother used to make cracks at me in front of hos friends but I'd just make some comment back or blow it off. We also took up bokken (wooden swords) practice, where the frustration is vented and let communication get through. (also quite a good workout)
2006-10-03 15:45:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you can't change her. She's the only one who can do that.
Now, if all you want is to stop hating her, I'd suggest (for example) putting down, in your journal, at least one thing you like about her, and I don't mean such facetious things as her absence. Positive things like, she's very helpful, she's kind sometimes, etc. Also include things such as her talents and gifts and strengths. ("She can play the clarinet really well," or, "She sure knows her French.")
You could also say some of this in person, or do nice things for her for no reason.
Difficult? Yeah, but it'll be worth it, won't it.
Good luck, and God bless!
2006-10-03 15:50:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 22:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS YOUR SISTER- we don't have to like them or what they do but we do love them. learn to say NO and don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable or unhappy. you weren't born together and 9out of 10 times you won't die together. love her even if you have to do it from a distance. listen and let go. she needs to learn to depend on herself and this won't happen if you and your brother are always cleaning up. you are you and she is SHE. keep a distance and things will blow over. being a mother of 8 and watching the different personalities emerge no 2 children are alike. but i am the one constant in all their lives. and i encourage them to get along or get away. give her plenty of space. be cordual but let her learn to take of her own. make your own friends and stay away from her and hers. because she makes herself bigger in her eyes she will always put you down if you let her. FIND THE HUMOR IN EVERY THING AND SHE WON'T BE ABLE TO FRONT YOU OFF. laugh at what she says and have a witty come back. that will limit her power with her words if she knows she can't get a rise out of you. turn it back. LAUGH with her. and remember if you throw her against a wall you WILL GO TO JAIL.
2006-10-03 15:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by BJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't look at the bad things she does.. try to pick some things out that she's actually! done that were good. and ignore her..she's probably jealous of you..but don't let that bother you..she takes you for granted as you take her.. both of you aught to be happy you girls have each other. Not many people have brothers nor sisters and wish they did, atleast even to beat up on once in a while.
2006-10-03 15:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Become a better person 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't like my brother too but after years we are family and for each other. Stop hating start loving is your sister - your blood.
Soon if you stop getting angry you can see different world.
2006-10-03 15:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to look inside yourself. Other people don't control your feelings and go from there.
2006-10-03 15:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice to her. she wont know how to react, but as hard as it is...remember, if anything ever goes wrong, she will be there for u, like it or not! and then...pray for the love ;)
2006-10-03 15:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dead Birds Don't Poop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her like your friend. not as your sister.because we know how to copeup with such roommates or friends
2006-10-03 17:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by creativitifan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋