Your child's father who has never seen your daughter...which is his. And doesnt pay child support or take responsibilitie got into a really bad car accident? and ppl wanted you to go and see him in a coma? Do you think i am crazy for having no sympathy? But some where inside me still loves him and wants to be there for him, even if he wasnt for me. I have prayed for him and all but i feel its in gods hands?
2006-10-03 15:18:12 · 17 answers · asked by thought 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh.... now i found out he was seeing a 16 yr old girl. and getting her high off of meth. and he had a job the whole time.... "i kinda wish he would die"
2006-10-03 16:29:35 · update #1
I can understand why you would feel as you do, he betrayed you and your daughter. I worked in the nursing field for over 10 years, and I truly believe that people in comas can hear you when you talk. SO my advice to you is to go see him, tell him how bad he's hurt you and your daughter. Tell him how he betrayed you, letting this off your chest will be a huge relief. By doing this you can be at peace regardless of his outcome, and you can lay the matter to rest. Good Luck.
2006-10-03 15:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by razzyrascal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just follow your own heart and you will do the right thing. you have to ask yourself........... how would you want things to be if the roles were reversed? remember, there was a time in your life that you were madly in love with the man, enough so to create a beautiful child together. now is the time you can go and sit beside him and share all the wonderful things with him that he has missed by not being in his daughters life. being in a coma he can still hear everything that is going on around him. share as much or as little about his daughter with him and it may well give him something to look forward to and be strong for to make it through this whole messed up ordeal. i wish the best for your family. god bless.
2006-10-03 22:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep praying for him God will lead you with an open hand to help you and tell you what you should do. If I were in your shoes I think I would go and see him this could be something that you need to do and at least for the daughters sake don't let her go threw life not knowing about her father.
2006-10-03 22:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by tisha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring closure to that part of your relationship. Go to the hospital, say a prayer over him and leave a card at bed side. (Make sure your daughter helps pick out the card and signs it.) Your daughter will respect you... she only has one father... and you will respect yourself for being there for her. You don't have to be sympathetic, but be empathetic. After your visit to the hospital take your daughter out to eat at a special place. Tell her that you care about her father and that you are going to be there for her too. Your right it's in God's hands but show God that you can handle it. Prayer is good.
2006-10-03 23:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would pray for him and his family but if he is not in your life then you should not be in the hospital with him because he needs his family right now.you may love him because he is the father of your child but are you in love with him? there is a difference in loving and being in love. I love my ex husband simply because he is the father of my 3 children(dead beat) but i am not in love with him.you do not say how old your daughter is. if she is young then you do not need to be there but if she is a teenager and wants to be there then maybe she would like your support. that is a choice you have to make and do not let anyone talk you into doing something you do not feel comfortable doing.
2006-10-03 22:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by mama bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to have sympathy for someone your so angry with. You can love him and pray for him and still be angry. It's been my experience that forgiving is easy but the forgetting is the tough part. I did'nt know my Dad...but knew he was'nt there for me. I had the opportunity to forgive before his time came and I did but I could'nt forget the pain and anger long enough to say goodbye. Still dont know if that was the right decision or not.
2006-10-03 22:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by trixydaysy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing the right thing. Your daughter is your priority. Its unfortunate that he couldn't be a better father and its unfortunate that he is where he is. But you aren't to blame for that. Just do what you feel is in the best interest of your daughter. Let God handle the rest.
2006-10-03 22:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you feel that way. But if I were you, I will see him since it might be the last time for you to do it, or you may regret it for the rest of your life that you did not do it while you still can.
Learn to forgive him, and it will give you also peace of mind. It is also for your relief that you will able to forgive.
2006-10-03 22:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by ivy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that going to see the man who fathered your daughter is strange - even under these circumstances.
2006-10-03 22:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by 2smart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are one of the few good people left.please dont let others direct you in a matter such as this.open your heart and let it guide you.it sounds to me as if you already have a very good head on your shoulders.I believe you will do whats right.it doesnt matter how anyone else feels as long as you have peace of mind.
2006-10-03 22:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by porkchophaynes0206 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋