I was with my boyfriend who is 4 years older than me for about 15 months. Throughout the relationship he has actually cheated on me many times after I lost IT to him, but because of love and attachment I still stayed with him. I was on the verge of breaking up with him many times, but it SUCKS how it had to take sleeping with other girls for him to realize how much he loves me. I also ha a weak point because Im a very self concious person and became so attached to him.
We were on again-off again during the last months before I finally broke up with him recently. I tried getting my mind off of him by sleeping with other guys, is this considered wrong, especially if his heart is broken? I just want to move on, but I dont know how to handle this on top of everything else. =(
Suggestions, anyone?
2006-10-03 15:06:46 · 9 answers · asked by slipgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has really messed with your head! Don't even THINK about going back to him! He is like poison to you.
To get back on your feet, I would suggest NOT sleeping with other guys, but finding a hobby that will get you interested in life again. Do some volunteer work, read some books, take a class, exercise, garden.... do SOMETHING that makes you happy. You need some time off to find yourself again.
2006-10-03 15:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly congratulations on finally realising the there is a problem,
secondly I suggest you check the following web site www.womansavers.com
If he cheated on you while together he doesn't love you, no matter what he says. Trust me I am talking from experience the way they treat and act towards you shows far more of their feelings than words do. Because in the end they were only words he used to get what he wanted.
Sleeping around trying to keep your mind off him wont help long term, (voice of experience again here) you need to work on your self esteem and confidence levels firstly and work and mending that broken heart.
I am still working on mine, and it will be a year in November, but woman savers has been a huge help in helping and changing myself for the better
Big hugs and stay strong there will be bad days but you deserve so much better.
2006-10-03 15:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by onelittlewitchiepooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Girl First of all i Gotta give you props on breaking it off with him For Good b/c having such a attachment to some one is hard to get rid of when he cheats,especially if you still had feelings for him. Second of all Sleeping with other men is not wrong in my eyes because you are trying to get him off your mind, and if that's they only way you can think of this then so be it. Third DON'T Get back with him even if he is "Heart Broken" because as they say "Once a cheater always a cheater" All else i can say is Good Luck !
2006-10-03 15:16:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like you are paying him back by sleeping with other guys. Why stoop down to his level? Buck up and realize that you are far better than him. He did you wrong. Don't do other guys wrong just because that happened to you. Be strong, be better than you ever was before. You are not as low as him. You need to find a person who likes you for you and accepts you for how you are. Don't accept anything less. He cheated. OK. He is the bad guy. You survived and now can go on. Don't do what he was doing to you. Then you are just like him. Celebrate that you are not with him, with a cheater. You don't need that.
2006-10-03 15:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question in the first place then you should know that you aren't over him...He's a dog...and most girls are attracted to them for some reason...trust me I know how you feel I've been through it...It's gonna be hard for you to let those feelings go especially since you lost IT to him...but sooner or later you'll realize that you deserve better and you'll drop him for good good luck
2006-10-03 15:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so what you are saying he only went with you to have sex with you so, 1.. he used you 2. he has slept around with other girls and you take him back he has disrespected you and ,3. he is now playing mind games with you wake up stop being use and move on ,4. who broke his heart ""he did"" so let the guilt trip go move on and stay gone good luck
2006-10-03 15:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should actually start sleeping with other guys to try to get over him i think you should forget all the memories yall had together and make new ones with someone that you think is special to you try to talk to other guys think about other stuff other than him try to avoid that one song that makes you miss him think about how much better you are off with out him try to get over him but it wont be easy
2006-10-03 15:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by *t. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave and stay away. he is no good, and you deserve better than that anyway. Like they say, don't stoop to his level.
2006-10-03 15:16:43 · answer #8 · answered by Rochelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DESERVE BETTER, YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE CHEATED ON AND LIED TO
2006-10-03 15:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mike H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋