my best friend just started dating this guy who i've know for a while. and shes known him too. he dated my now ex-friend, and one of my other friends, and was super abusive. he's known for throwning girls into walls, chocking them, etc. and my friend knows this yet she still dates him.
and i feel really bad saying that i wont be there for her when he hurts her, even though i said i would be there for her no matter what. i've been through a lot of bullshit this year, and i can't handle anymore. and i feel like a piece of **** friend.
advice would be amazing...
2006-10-03 15:02:40 · 14 answers · asked by basketxcasexbitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have you told her that! If you did than try to keep it in your mind rember if you don't have anything to say than don't say it at all.
2006-10-03 15:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by tropicalhawiia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're already a good Friend. This is not a state of mind but a personality trait. You have it. However, everyone gets too much baggage piled on too high every now and then. It's O.K. to tell her that for the moment you just can't stand to see another dysfunctional relationship. Later, much later, you will listen to her "what was I thinking" episodes. Step away. Just don't get lost coming back when YOU can handle it. As a Friend it isn't your duty, it's your lot in life. Been there - done that - got the shirt, it never gets easier.
2006-10-03 15:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a tough spot to be where you're at and that is in the middle. Your best bet would be to just be as honest as you can to your friend about how you feel about her dating this guy. You said she knows that he is abusive, so tell her that you are concerned for her safety and you do not want to see her get hurt. If she still chooses to be with him over you then you have 2 options. Either stick around and wait for her to come crawling back to you or find a new friend. Sorry honey! Its a difficult struggle, I've been there. Hope this helps alittle.
2006-10-03 15:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety. iv been though both sides of this problem.im not sure what age you r but that really dont matter in these cases.your friend is choising her own path right or wrong,the best you can do is tell her how you feel but also tell her that you CANT be there for her when he hurts her.that its not far to put you though the rocky road she chose.please understand that this is helping her, she will know you care becauls you will give her room hes not going to. make her promise that no matterwhat you will stay friends and that she will never put him befor you.then go from there.talking bad about him eventhough he is a pussy boy she cares for him
2006-10-03 15:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by stcgoodman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way about my sisters man, and you know what, the guys are extremely alike. You cant do anything to get rid of him, but you should be supportive of your friend because she will need you when things fall apart. Besides, they wont be together forever and you dont wanna ruin your relationship with her beacuse of this.
2006-10-03 15:06:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already voiced your concern and oppion to her whether she takes that advice or not is really up to her. You need to let her be and expereince that for her self. My best friend was in the same position and she never took my advice until it happened to her. Somes you just have to let go of their hand and let them learn on their own...good luck
2006-10-03 15:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by lolli_pop69_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have any great advice but you could try telling her that when she has had enough that you will be ready to help her out but in the meantime you don't have the desire to see her let herself get hurt. Maybe that will help her. Sorry for your sit. it is tough
2006-10-03 15:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Tetsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl- she has to make her own mistakes- it's her life. But if she wants to make her life part of yours and you dont want to hang with this guy, stand up for yourself. If she misses you, she'll come around. Let her live her life the way she wants, because that is the only way she'll learn.
2006-10-03 15:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been try to talk to your friend to forsaken him cause he didn't a nice guy. Tell her that you don't want to see he hurts her anymore. Or you have permission to your friend to talk with her boyfriend to wouldn't hurts her anymore. If she don't want to give the permission and prefer to stay with him let her go cause you only give her advise she has a decission for herself.
2006-10-03 15:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Retno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing , time to find a new best friend
2006-10-03 15:09:06 · answer #10 · answered by blondguy92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋