What should I do?

Question

My brother in law has major psychological issues. We aren't talking right now because my husband and I got into an argument with him and my sister in law a few weeks back. Well today I went on a fieldtrip with my kindergartener, and his wife was there with her kindergartener. I didn't feel right talking to her, after we had gotten into the argument. I would feel like a hypocrite if I talked to her, and hadn't actually forgiven her for what hapened. Some really bad words were exchanged, and I'm still not over it. I guess I'm just tired of this happening over and over again. Well he called me like 10 times harrassing me about me not talking to his wife. He told me that karma is a b*tch and that I was going to get mine. I don't know what I did wrong? Can someone tell me. I don't want to deal with him anymore! What do I do?

Keep in mind, the holidays are coming. I don't know how to stay away from them, without avoiding the rest of my family

This is my husbands brother

He is impossible to talk to! He insists on talking louder then whoever he's arguing with, and never lets anybody defend themself. He called my husband a PU$$Y because I didn't answer the phone to argue with him. My husband isn't even here, he's at work!

I guess I'm just tired of forgiving him. Is that wrong? It's just happened so much, I'm just sick and tired of it!

Answer 1

You need to go and look at my questions. This is my exact problem right now as well. I have set up a meeting to try and work things out. As the holidays are coming and dont want to continue like this. Life is to short to argue. Forgivness is neccisary. As hard as it is to forgive you have to for your sake. You can email if you like as i am going through the same thing with my husbands brother and wife.

Answer 2

Would he have been happy if you had spoken to her? Or, would you talking to his wife only create a different reason for him to call. Can your husband talk to his brother? Getting together for the holidays with the whole family together may cause him to become very verbal in front of everyone. Has your husband, talked to his parents about his brothers behavior? If ALL of this only began a few weeks ago, maybe you and your husband need to try to make amends with them. If this has been going on for a while, maybe your husband could encourage his brother to get help.

Answer 3

Well, unless you can all decide to sit down and talk (sociable) since this is a family issue -- try family counseling. I know it can be even more stressful with the holidays coming and I wish you luck! If no agreements can be reached, the best thing you can probably do is what you are currently doing - just keep your own lips together, regardless of how angry you get.

Answer 4

If he called you & went off because you didn't talk to his wife on a field trip, he is either a loon, or a total hot-head. She could have talked to you first.... The guy sounds completely immature. You have no reason to try with someone like that... You may need to have your husband diplomatically let some key family members in on what has happened, so they will have a heads-up that the holidays may need to be handled separately.

Answer 5

Well I would say since it is your husbands side of the family and he is the man of the house he can do the problem solving.maybe you should all get together and have a scream fest air the problems and bury the hatchet.The holidays are coming and families should try harder than they do to get along.Good Luck

Answer 6

This is up to your husband to straighten out -it's his brother. We didn't see my husbands family for 10 years because of similar problem and it was a great 10 years.

Answer 7

You must let the past be the past. Lingering arguments can cause real problems of the present not to be recognized. Tell your husband to deal with his brother especially since he threatened you."I was going to get mine."

Answer 8

Your SCREWED! Run for you life!!!!!

Answer 9

no