My finance is upset that I am having a bachlorette party. He doesnt want to stay at home because he says that he will just sit here and worry and get mad about it. I feel that he should stay at home with our 5 week old daughter rather than hiring a babysitter. I plan to stay at home with her while he goes out for his bachlor party. Any thoughts or advice? Please help. Am I right to be upset with him.
2006-10-03 14:24:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes....don't marry a man like that...OR....he may be intimidated by keeping a five week old by himself.....men have to learn to nuture...it doesn't necessarily come natural to us.........when my son was 5 weeks old I was still petrified...we get better as they get older.....id try to find him some backup for the time your out...his tension may be relieved
2006-10-03 14:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by enigmaticarrogantass 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If having a party is worth having a fight over then go for it... in my book IT'S NOT ! It's rather stupid actually.
Don't call the wedding over something so trivial as a damned party for Pete's sake! Do you know how utterly selfish that would be?
You two have apparently been together for sometime and already have a wee little life invested in this relationship. If you were adult enough to get pregnant and have a child you should be adult enough to come to some sort of an agreement on a stupid party!
If you can't agree on something then forget the party. You are not going to die because you don't have one but you might end up causing the beginnings of a wall to be built between you two if you do.
Make an adult decision, you will be making them for the next 18 years so you might as well get started with the easy ones first.
This is life sweetheart... reality of being an adult and not getting to have everything you want anymore. Grow up and act like a woman marring the man she loves instead of a teenager pissed at her boyfriend.
2006-10-03 15:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by mommakaye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think you have the right to be mad because put yourself in his shows. But i think that you should leave the baby with a family member and plan the bachlorette & bachlor party at the same time and date!!!
Hope I Helped!!
P.S- Not to make anyone mad but i don't think that you should listen to tag571 any one that told you call the weddinng!!!
2006-10-03 14:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Those things are really over rated, Why not just throw a big party together to settle things. Marriage is however about compromise. Or have a formal dinner with your closes Friends. Its not worth a fight. If you both must have a party then plan them on the same night so he's out with his friends and not at home worrying about you.
2006-10-03 17:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely have a right to be upset. Maybe he's just concerned that you'll be having strippers and that sort of typical bachelorette stuff. If you are, assure him that you can be trusted around that sort of thing. But honestly, I myself would forgo that type of bachelorette party and go out for a relaxing day at a spa with your bridesmaids. You'll feel a lot better about it, and won't have any embarassing stories to worry about! If he's still upset about just a day out with the girls, then you need to discuss it with him. There's some issues there that ya'll need to get worked out.
2006-10-03 15:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by MegW12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a bigger problem than you realize. If the two of you so not have mutual trust and understanding between each other, your marriage is in for some very tough times. You need to look up the term "unconditional love" before you marry at all.
2006-10-04 07:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by diturtlelady2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes a little on the controlling side. If your having issues about you going to your bachlorette party maybe you should consider whats hes not going to like next ... BEFORE you marry this "boy". (I say boy because thats how hes acting)
2006-10-03 15:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, I would re-think this whole marriage thing. I understand that you have a daughter, but honestly, if you are having problems with him over this, what kind of controlling behavior are you going to have to deal with over other things? He can't let you have one night out with the girls without getting angry and jealous? Does he let you go to the grocery store by yourself? What's next? I seriously suggest that you two discuss some ground rules about this sort of thing before it gets out of hand! and him saying "But baby I just love you so much that the thought of someone else looking at you makes me crazy!" should not inspire confidence! It should make you run screaming--this is classic controlling behavior, which will only get worse and worse. Please think about this all before you say I do.
2006-10-03 14:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by Waferette 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-15 12:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please no fighting before the wedding. If he can't agree with you on this bachlorette thing. I think its best you don't have one. I mean I did not have one. I know I would be upset if he had his. We decided to just not have one and spend time with each other/.
2006-10-03 14:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should honour your fiance's wishes - not a good time to get in a snit with him! Since you have a small child, it's not the time to be selfish and just do stuff for yourself - things need to be altered because of your circumstances!
2006-10-04 01:16:19 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋