I really like this girl and i really want to talk to her. Problem is both of us are shy, and Its really hard for me to start a conversation up right let alone keep it going because i get so nervous. Is there anything i can do to make it so i am more relaxed and so it doesnt seem so akward?
2006-10-03 14:20:11 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go up to her and say this "I've got a problem and I heard you can probably help with it. But I don't want to talk here it's embarrasing" then give her your number and say you NEED to talk about it tonight. When (if) she calls tell her the truth. You know a girl that's fairly shy and you want to talk to her, just talk. Girls are smart enough to know your talking about them, but evil enough to play alittle. Enjoy the Game. That's all it is in the beginning. Treat it that way and YOU will be less shy.
2006-10-03 14:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fake your shyness. I'm the shyest person in the world, but no one knows it because I pretend to be easy going and happy-go-lucky all the time.
Just walk up to her like you own the ground she walks on and start up a conversation with a simple "Hi." From there, you say something funny and/or witty to get her to respond, like "word on the street says you're good with numbers..."
Also.. try to avoid "yes or no" questions because they'll always end up saying either yes or no and leave it at that. Ask open-ended questions that have a lengthy response.
Oh.. and don't email her--call her if anything--just don't hide behind the internet. It doesn't score any long-term points. Plus, you do this in person and it'll help you more than it will her because you build character.
2006-10-03 23:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be a little easier since you are both shy. At least, being the guy, you know you have to be the one to initiate something. (It would be harder if you are shy and the girl is very outgoing/ sociable).
Just try to relax and express what is inside you. Don't say something just to impress her. Be yourself. Once you start a conversation, it will just keep coming. Just remember, she is probably just as nervous as you are.
Good luck!
2006-10-03 21:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by OnThe36th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start conversations with other girls to get practice. Just a "hi" and then a "how are you?" could take the edge off. Practice and you will then be more comfortable approaching her. I know you can do it, I used to be incredibly shy (and at times still am) but little by little I forced myself to talk to people.
So trust me it works. Good luck, now go make steps on getting your girl!
2006-10-03 21:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that you're in high school or junior high (middle school). If this is true, try to become her partner for some type of project, or maybe just ask her to work on homework together. This might seem lame, but talking will we be easier if you're working on something together. Gradually, you'll notice that you're becoming more comfortable around her (and she around you). Eventually, talking to her will be as easy as with one of your close friends.
One other recommendation: Don't start talking to her on an online messenger service until after you've become friends in real life. It just makes if awkward in person if you do. Good Luck!
2006-10-03 21:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by stacks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her on msn, or on messengers so you can talk to her without looking at her (i had the same problem talking to the guy i liked) and then u just talk about the things at school that u were talking about on msn.. more things to talk about... and its really cute when shy guys make short comments.. like if she said "oh my brother was bugging me yesterday" the next day at school you can ask something like did u get rid of ur annoying brother? or something like that with a smile... that will make her melt :)
oh and i suggest asking her for hwk help... thats cute too.. its really cute when shy guys ask you to do skomething because it is less expected and therefore more special...
ask her to go to the library or sit with u during lunch to help u wiht stuff (if u know she likes u )
2006-10-03 21:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by anna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, learn to spell, then you might want to be with friends or other couples, this might help to take off some of the pressure during the uncomfortable silences. Good luck.
2006-10-03 21:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by robtiger2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to be nervous regardless. Might as well buck it up and ask her out. :)
2006-10-03 21:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by ihateblueinkpens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and just ask her it will get easier to talk to her as you go
2006-10-03 21:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say hi she may want to start see if you have something in commen say i like what you are doing
2006-10-03 21:23:20 · answer #10 · answered by kira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋