I've had sex with only 3 girls and when my g/f asked how many I've been with I said 3, including her. The truth!
Later, she found out 4 of her friends that I dated long before going out with her gave me handjobs and she accused me of lying.
Do handjobs count? What about BJs?
I don't think it should - What do you girls think?
2006-10-03 14:01:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To be honest - If you count all the acts, it would be with only 9 girls.
I didn't ejectulate all the time.
I think my g/f is more mad that these 4 friends of hers gave me pressure in almost all of our dates using their hands on me - in my car, in movie theaters, in the park and most of all in the school restrooms.
2006-10-03 14:18:38 · update #1
Depends on who's counting :-) I think it all counts as sex. Now, it is not sexual intercourse, but it is still sex. You can clarify to her that by sex you ment sexual intercourse. But really, is that important? I'm surprised and puzzled that your GF asked you in the first place, wasn't satisfied with the answer and went to ask her friends. That is really weird to me.
Easy illustration of how hand job counts as sex: if I were to find out that some girl had a hand down my BF pants yesterdays - she's soooo dead, and he is soooo dumped. LOL.
2006-10-03 14:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the person...look at Bill Clinton for example...but a lot of girls/women believe that anything relitively sex related counts as sex. A better way to handle it may have been to ask her what she thinks counts as sex and then answer. But since you're already being framed a liar, try to explain that in your opinion, it wasn't sex.
2006-10-03 14:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dusty P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dunno.....everyone has their opinions as far as what's considered sex....
Now as far as the handjob thing.....well...if handjobs counted...then I dunno...would masturbation count as well? You get what I'm saying?
In my personal opinion...bj's count as sex.....for the simple fact that there is actual penis-to-mouth penetration...and the exchange of body fluids....but to each his own.
Oral sex does count. Sex doesn't necessarily have to be vaginal or anal penetration. But see what her definition of sex is. Cuz like I said before...everyone has a different definition of sex.
Also I'm going to add this.....if she wasn't prepared for the answer...then she shouldn't have asked the question...that was rather insecure of her to ask your friends and all....shows a sign of mistrust and all.
Never ask a woman how many people she's had sex with...no matter what the answer is...you're not going to be able to take it. lol
2006-10-03 14:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by ii_battle_override_ii 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men and women constantly have varying opinions on topics like this. Basically, if you do something physical with someone and would feel guilty or scared to tell your current girlfriend about it, then you should consider it "sex." Or, on the flip side, if you know you'd be upset if she did the same with someone else, then it's "sex."
Now is a good time to sit down and talk it out, explain where you were coming from, and boil it down to just difference of opinions.
2006-10-03 14:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by akflame81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right, but that's not the point. If she is pissed about the girls that you didn't mention, then you have to apologize about leaving those out, even though she technically asked you how many you had sex with, you didn't really tell the whole story. So, its like you are trying to get off on a technicality, and that makes her even more pissed.
2006-10-03 14:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't count, I don't think so. Unfortunately, it's personal enough to piss her off. You dod not lie, I'm with you there. But I guess she may be thinking that you should have been completely open and honest with her. Me, on the other hand, disagree. She shouldn't be angry, it was before you were with her. I hate women like that. People don't have to tell their partners everything. Girls are just too sensitive. I'm glad I'm not! That would be way too much time wasted on crying, and frankly, I couldn't care less!
2006-10-03 14:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by jess l 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When dealing with a woman, you have to realize that they look at it one way, and expect you to never look at anything the way you have before you met her, lol. I think her asking you that question is a total crock. it never leads to anything good. as from a guys view, no. i don't think they count. from a womans, then yes. if ever asked that question again, just tell her everything. give her the number of women you have had ay kind of sexual experience with. and tell your girl that she might as well get over it. but she probably wont, sorry to say.
2006-10-03 14:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Chris L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His Holiness President Bill Clinton said: "I did not have 'sex' with that woman - Ms. Lewinsky". Let it be told from on high - BJs and hand jobs are not sex. Praise be to Bill! Amen. And praise to Kelsey who is exactly right!
2006-10-03 14:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gene Rocks! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To me, "sex" is intercourse. Handjobs. BJs etc. fall under the category of fooling around.
2006-10-03 14:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by kelsey 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Either way it's the pass and she shouldn't make a big deal about it. As long as you didn't cheat on her she needs to get a grip.
p.s. if you've ever masterbated you better add yourself to the list!!
2006-10-03 14:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋