Her husband is out of the country, we started working together 3 months ago and since then we are seeing each other on non-working hours almost every day, I love her with all my hearth and she also loves me. She wants to tell him via email she is now dating me, but she doesn´t know what to write to him. She is afraid of the way he might react about it... what should she write to him?
2006-10-03 14:00:55 · 19 answers · asked by Darth Sidious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think she should talk to him in person,how would you feel if she told you she couldn't leave him that's its over via email.
2006-10-03 14:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by luna1081 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess she should start off general and then end up with "honey, i have something to tell you..........I started working with a guy who is very nice while you were out of the country, and one thing led to another. He and i are now sort of seeing each other. I thought it would be best if you heard this straight from me with no bull and no beating around the bush. I know that there is not really any excuse for this, but sometimes the loneliness is more than i can bear. It is hard for me to deal with it, and i really needed someone to help me through it. Please dont take this the wrong way." Then, she can add some stuff of her own. For your info: even if you don't use my words, she should just come out and tell him rather than b.s. with him and beat around the bush. it will be easier for him to deal with, and it won't go over so badly if she just tells him. Good luck to you in this very tricky situation.
2006-10-03 21:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you do not go about telling your husband via e-mail about an affair, this is not high school, this is real life...She needs to wait until he gets home and sit down to talk about this as 2 adults, not her acting like a child, in love for the first time....She married for a reason and it is going to take awhile to get out of...If you 2 are suppose to be together then it will happen, but you need to go about it the right way...
2006-10-03 21:09:36 · answer #3 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?! If she'll cheat w/you, she'll cheat ON you. Sorry, but the LAST thing you want is to be with this woman in a committed relationship. You could never trust that she'll be as committed to you as you are to her.
I feel a sense of deja vu here.
Do you REALLY want a woman in your life who'd rip her own marriage apart?!
Would you want to be told VIA EMAIL, "Hey, hun, I'm sleeping with someone else and I'm leaving you. Have a good trip!"
Think hard on this one. Pray and seek clarity. This is not a case in which to be guided by emotion.
2006-10-03 21:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
via email???? Think about it - if she were YOUR wife, and you got an email saying "Im seeing someone else babe", you'd be sick! If she really needs to tell him. She should do it face to face. And you should remind her that she is not doing it for YOU. You don't want that on your shoulders. Because if you guys dont work out - she'll resent you. Bottom line - she needs to tell him and end the marriage.
2006-10-03 21:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kristen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you know that married women are off limits.....is her husband in the military? Shame on both of you. I am so bent out of shape that you feel like this is perfectly acceptable behavior that I can't see straight.What's wrong with people???? Where has morals and decency gone????
2006-10-03 21:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by perplexed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should not tell him via email because she is married to him which means there once where in love with each other or had feelings or something in common. also put your self in his shoes is that how you would want to be told
2006-10-03 21:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy that's tough!...my initial response is probably not going to be what you want to hear....i've never walked a day in your shoes, so i want go there..as for your question, there is no easy answer!i believe that being honest and up front is of extreme importance in reguards to your "new relationship"...i bet that the two of you have spent a lot of time trying to rationalize your new "romance", and i'm also betting that yall' are both ready to move forward....go ahead make a decision, do it, and be done with it.....is he in the military...please say no, if he is .....you're on your own...
2006-10-03 21:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by michael m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to react the same way, either way! he's going to be hurt, or relieved. Email is the same, though, as a "dear john" letter; cowardice.
2006-10-03 21:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all the person you are dating is and you yourself are jerks. she is cheating on her husband so she will cheat on you one day
second. she should tell him person to person not by email.
third. hes gona knock you out man. you better run!
2006-10-03 21:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by wassup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋