She throws fits at school,kicks,screams,and does not stop until I come get her,no matter how long it takes.There seems to be no reason except that she just doesnt want to go.
2006-10-03 13:38:14 · 27 answers · asked by crow lover 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Talk to her and ask her why she doesn't want to go. Talk about her problems and reassure her that she will have a good time, make friends, and learn alot. Give her lots of praise as well for good grades so she'll look forward to going back and working harder.
2006-10-03 13:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure there is much you can do other than just keep making her go. If you let her choose and don't make her go, this will never solve the problem. Sooner or later I would think she would quit throwing fits because she'll realize that she has to do this and that you're never going to give in. The school staff is supposed to be able to deal with these kind of things and should be able to handle it while she is in their care. My 4 yr. old son was the same way when starting pre-school, but now he's fine. I just never gave in to him. I feel that it hurts us more to know that they're crying or having a bad day then it actually does them. I think after a while, they realize that it's not so bad and that they actually have fun. I also made a deal with my son that I would call him every day after about an hour and a half of being there. Maybe you could try that as well. Let her know that even though you two are separated, you're still thinking about her. I know this might not be helpful to you, but I really don't think there is a cure to your problem. I hope that I at least made you feel that you're not the only one out there with this problem. :)
2006-10-03 20:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by *A~n~G* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to not only ask her what is the problem, but also ask her teacher what is wrong. You may need to sit with her a few times, or at least show her that she needs to go to school, and you will be there for her everyday when she gets home. Of course, you state she is only 5. Some 5-year-old children really are not ready for school, and she may be one of them. If this is the case, you may need to see about restarting her next year, and prepare her more stringently at home for school. Sounds like she has separation anxiety problems. If this is pre-school, on the other hand, mild discipline may be in order.
2006-10-03 20:57:43 · answer #3 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is more going on than just not liking school. It may be that there is a problem with the teacher or a kid in class. Talk to the teacher find out what is going on. See if she can transfer classes. It also may be that she's not used to the class layout and just needs time to adjust. But also talk to her and really listen to the answers why doesn't she like school. Is it because she isn't learning enough? Can't see/hear the teacher? is someone beating her up at school? These are all things you need to talk to her and her teacher about.
2006-10-03 20:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by kholbee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps try offering some kind of a reward for going to school, maybe like an extra half hour added before bed time, like 8:30 instead of 8, or an ice cream treat after dinner.
Maybe you could also ask her about the fun things she did at school that day and be enthusiastic about it, for example if she says she colored a picture, you could say "oh wow I wish I could have done that today! you're so lucky!". Then she may see that school is a good/fun thing if mom gets excited about it.
2006-10-03 20:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by shortee807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. I still remember when I used to lock myself in the bathroom when I was 5 just to avoid school. My mom was great about it though. She would just let me stay home and we would later eat lunch together at a resteraunt. I didn't do it too often though. And now, I am a high school graduate with a 3.7 GPA and already completed 2 years of college.
There was no real reason I didnt want to go to school... I just wanted to sleep in... hang out with my mom all day... and not have to sit in a chair for six hours straight being told what to do. It was a big change from the time when I didn't go to school and spent all day with my mom to suddenly having to go everyday and not seeing her as much as I was used to.
2006-10-03 21:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it seems that she is winning at this point. My opinion would be to leave her there , the teacher should know what to do, the child will learn not to throw a fit eventually. i have a teenager , 8,4,and 1 year old.
talk to her , and discuss why she does this , let her answer for her self , do not give her a leading question, DO you not like the teacher? ask an open ended question , Why do you get upset when i take you to school? you will find out more from letting the child answer for themselves than to try and guide them to an answer.
2006-10-03 20:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by ArcLight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this all to well! My daughter had this problem it is a little bit of seperation anxiety. But you need to make sure it si not a problem with the teacher. My daughter became physical with me because she did not liek her teacher because she woudl not let her use the restroom and she had an accident in her pants. Before i finally realized the problem i talked to the teacher my daughter talked to the school counselr and it all boiled down to be repremanded for having to use the restroom. I chaged my daughters school and havent had a problem since!
Belive what ur child says they say it for a reason. Look into the situation.
2006-10-03 23:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by worried 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well change is hard...especially for kids. But try to make it fun for her. Like find out what they are doing in school and try to do some things at home related to class. Also you can get to know classmates and invite them over for play dates...dealing with a 5 year old who doesnt want to do something is hard but you could even try to talk to her about it and comfort her. Good luck hun!
2006-10-03 20:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by Nikoale 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
then don't reward her behavior by picking her up before school is over. It sounds like she doesn't like someone else telling her what to do.
if you are able take a few days and go with her to school. sit in the corner and basically ignore her but be there do NOT react to her tantrums. if she throws one then leave WITHOUT HER.
she has learned that by throwing a tantrum she gets what she wants or at least she has YOUR attention.
2006-10-03 20:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋