im in a relationship with this female right,she has her own business.she says she loves me but not in love with me! what exactly does this mean? cause im a really cool guy and all im looking for is someone special!! what am i doing wrong?? oh we stay together as well
2006-10-03 13:37:38 · 24 answers · asked by UNSEENHAND 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, you need to ask her what that means to her. sometimes in relationships you do fall in and out of love, but you love the person the whole time. plus, there are different stages of love. tell her you don't understand what she means, and you would like to hear more about these feelings.
2006-10-03 13:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She probably loves you as a person and loves your company and your friendship, but is not yet IN love with you. Like, you can love your friends, but not love them like that. So I'm sure she thinks of you as a great friend, and maybe more, she's just not at the point where she's IN love with you yet. I'd just give it some time. How long have you been in a relationship with her? Maybe she's just not ready to say that she's in love with you yet.
Then again, maybe she just thinks of you as a friend with benefits. It's hard to tell without knowing more about your relationship. I mean, are you together all the time? I think more details are needed to give you a straight answer.
2006-10-03 20:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK..if she says she loves you but isn't IN LOVE with you..she just wants to be friends and is not sure how to tell you. She might not want to tell you cause she doesn't want to hurt your feelings.
Cause I'm telling you, I can't stop staring at my hubby when he walks into a room. I sneak into the bedroom when he's sleeping just to watch him sleep. After our kids, he's the first thing on my mind in the morning, and the last before I go to bed at night.
If she can't say the same about you. You are probably better off moving on. Cause staying in a loveless relationship is the worst thing in the world, I've been there too.
2006-10-03 20:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by NannersK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is her suger coated way of saying she thinks your great but nothing more. She dosent love you in a long term relationship sort of way. Maybe she actually does love you as a friend,as a person,maybe she dosent even know why she isnt in love with you,but she dosent love you as a mate. She may be trying to break away,why not take a seperation to see if those magical magnetic forces reonnect the two of you.
2006-10-03 20:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by TrofyWife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving someone and being in love with someone are two totally different things. She is telling you that she loves you. In other words you are a good person, she cares for you, etc. She is not in love with you means that she doesn't have the romantic feelings, wants, desires, that a couple share. Trust me...I'm there. Move on. Find someone that can be in love with you.
2006-10-03 20:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could me that she doesnt have those puppy dog feelings for you anymore. She loves you as she cares about you and what your feelings are and what happens to you but that deep feeling and those butterflys that you get arent there. Love is a choice not a feeling because those butterflys always go away. When you chose to stay with that person after that feeling goes away thats true love. Sounds like she is confused about that and she thinks that love is a feelings which it is not.
2006-10-03 20:42:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sad to say but if she said she's not in love with you....then I think that's it. Women don't usually waver on the whole being "in love" thing. At lesat she's being honest with you, meaning she likes and respects you as a friend but not for anything else.
I think you should take this opportunity to date other girls who actually like you, for you! Don't get stuck on one girl who's not showing you the time of day because you may miss out on a perfect girl!
2006-10-03 20:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by CR2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Son , I ain't no girl but I have been around long enough to know what this means" Some things ya do are right and some things ya do are "not alright: Are ya romancing her or just satifying her? Your first problem is "ya think you are cool" Chances are ya are the only one who thinks that!!!Change your attitude dude cause "cool" is what "cool does"
2006-10-03 20:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's more focused on her career, thats what shes trying to tell you. Dont get your hopes up in this relationship as shes already told you where you stand. If your not happy, then it might be best for you to leave. This wont change.
2006-10-03 20:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry guy,but it sounds like the honeymoon is nearing its end.She probably likes you but is looking for someone special herself.You are not it.Have fun while it lasts but dont drive yourself crazy.If you ARE a nice,cool guy,there is someone out there for you.
2006-10-03 20:46:23 · answer #10 · answered by crow lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋