Everyone keeps telling me she's just tryin to make me jealous and run back to her. I'll talk about that later but Im going to give her a note and it says "I need to be honest with you for a minute. I really love you as more than just a friend, I heard you talking about your boyfriend and you said something about how your boyfriend doesn't talk to your that much anymore and he avoids you and he makes you nervous. You think this might be his way of telling you he wants to break up? I dont want to ruin your relationship with your boyfriend and I dont want to ruin our friendship but if you ever break i'll always be there for you, even if you dont break up I'll still always be there for you, as a best friend. I just wanted you to know--I really do love you". My friend was talking to her this morning and he said as soon as he said my name she started smiling a lot. He says she like me. She said were like best friends and stuff like that. I NEED advice!!!!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!! I LOVE HER!!!
2006-10-03 13:02:30 · 22 answers · asked by JesusFreak 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also if you want look at my previous 2 questions, that will tell you a lot more.
2006-10-03 13:04:47 · update #1
Man,you are so young. Calm yourself,will you?
I read your previous questions as well as this one and sorry to say
Perdurabo,despite her sexist dismissal of men's feelings,has a
point in your case. You do sound obsessed,but I put that down to
this probably being your first love. There's no doubt your feelings
are very intense-maybe too much so for your own good.
You don't want to scare this girl off,but the chances are if you
come on too strong you'll do just that-especially if she already has
a boyfriend. We don't know the situation between them but since
they're dating it's a complication for you. Be cool. If you have to express your feelings to her now do it,but try not to put too much
pressure on her to choose between you and her boyfriend. I can't
think of a more likely way to destroy your friendship with her.
Honestly it sounds to me like she thinks of you as a friend but
who really knows? Remember,if things don't work out,that there
are plenty of nice girls out there. Try not to wear your heart on your sleeve if you can,you'll save yourself a lot of pain. Take care
and good luck.
2006-10-03 14:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U asked to many questions about her. So her's something really straight forward..... Stop idiolizing her, she has a boyfriend already! if she liked u she would dump him and go to u. Being best friends is a start of a relation ship in the future maybe u 2 would end up together. But for now look for a girl that likes u right now and go out with her maybe it will get your bestfriend jelous and maybe she'll break up with the guy and talk to u about getting together. Hey u never know.
2006-10-03 13:25:55 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no! Do not give her that note!!!
Look, she has a boyfriend. There are people who won't dump a boyfriend/girlfriend until they found a new victim... er..boyfriend or girlfriend, then they dump the old one because they already found the new one.
That's dishonest. If her relationship with her boyfriend isn't working out, then she should do the honest thing and dump him. then, when she's free, you can make your play.
If the relationship is working, then why do you want to go and ruin it in the hopes that things will be better with you. Are you thinking of what's best for her or for you?
C'mon, man, you know it's wrong to covet your neighbor's hottie.
2006-10-03 13:08:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it looks like you're headed for disappointment and heartbreak. If she really wanted to be with you the way you wish, she would already be with you. Instead, she is with someone else. There is no good way to get over someone, especially if you're trying to remain friends with them. But, the worst thing you can do is to tell her your true feelings and will wait for her. At best, she'll think you're weak and pathetic. At worst, she'll think you're some kind of stalker.The truth is this girl and you are never going to happen...Now for the good news: there are billions of other women in the world waiting for you!!! Lick your wounds, put on your game face, and go find love with someone who can return it. This girl is not that person.
2006-10-04 04:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by bastien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her you will want her to be happy even if she is with her boyfriend or not.. But since she has a boyfriend why can't you accept that fact now? If she likes you she will breakup with her boyfriend and go out with you but why isn't she? Simply because she just think of you as her best friend... Move on and accept the fact that she thinks of you as her friend and be happy for her.. If you love her then you will want to be happy even without you ,.... But now I'm just thinking you are obsessed with her and not love her...
2006-10-03 13:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth will come out sooner or late anyway. Why not give it a shot. If she isn't interested that way she will be your friend and you'll have to accept that. But who knows, love is not on a schedule and you'll know for certain what she feels and you can get on with your life one way or the other.
2006-10-03 13:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by Lana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok - calm down.
Are you calm?
Calmer...
There - are you okay? Take a deep breath...
One more...
Ah - there you go.
You don't love her. You are obsessed with her.
They are different.
You don't understand love and never will - you are a man - men don't understand love - when they think they're in love they are usually obsessed.
Obsessed. She doesn't care about you.
Repeat that five times - "she doesn't care about me."
Done? Okay - now repeat five times: "I am strong, independent, and capable and don't need her for anything."
Did you do it?
Okay - one more time.
Love - Obsession - you are obsessed. She has ALL THE POWER OVER YOU!
Do you want to be powerless? If you do, then continue on the path you are on.
FP
2006-10-03 13:06:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
hun, w8 till they break up. don't give her the note cuz she might show it to her bf and then he will probably try and kick ur a**. if ur in Jr. high then the relationship probably wont last forever. if ur in high school, well, just be patient
2006-10-03 13:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Heather D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....i think u shud give her the note. DOn't kill ur feelings cos i no what happens when u do......tell her. I told him and he was my best bud. And we were the bestest couple. When u tell her try to act suave....like nothing had happened between u 2. Just act normall and then it's her decision of what she wants to do.......if she likes u then she wud break up with her bf and come to u. If she doesn't....then i'm srry. but anyway......Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-10-03 13:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋