I am 13 yrs old and i feel like i really need to do this with him cause i love him and he loves me he hasnt asked me but i feel i need to well want to but yeah what should i do?
2006-10-03 12:53:49 · 18 answers · asked by temper_hazard 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
13 is too young! Ask ya mommy!
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2006-10-03 12:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that you should not give away a part of yourself you will never get back. At 13 although you feel old enough to make those decisions, really you're not and the consequences might not be something you would like to do. What if you got a disease? What if you got pregnant? What if you lose a sense of self worth because this guy ditches you afterwards? You have to be fully prepared mentally even though you probably already are physically. There is SO much to think about, I don't think a 13 year old truly understands.
I have a 13 year old son and a 12 year old daughter and even though my kids are mature for their age, I don't even think that THEY are ready for decisions like that and being their Mom I would hope that they would come and talk to me about their decisions about sex before they do them just to make sure they are absolutely ready. Everyone will do it as they grow up, but at 13 there is just too much at risk. I'm speaking from experience, I was 13 when I lost my virginity and I had my first child when I was 17. It's a rough situation and wouldn't wish it upon anyone. Love my kids to death! Just wish I had them later in life. I wish I had more of my youth back. I think you should wait!
2006-10-03 13:00:33 · answer #2 · answered by Candace Rideout 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, girl you need to wait. I was 14 when I lost it and I regret it everyday. I'm 26 now and I wish I had waited till I was older. Just because you feel like you do, doesn't mean you need to. Sex is not the most important thing in life. You're 13, loves will come and go out of your life. You really need to wait and think about this. Think about the consequences to - what if you did get pregnant?
2006-10-03 12:59:15 · answer #3 · answered by rareed321 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie. You will feel a lot of things in your life and acting on them is not the answer. Just think of what could happen to you. Leave him out of it for now. There are diseases, babies, reputations, emotions that a 13 yr old is not ready for. Your mother and her heartbreaking if anything happens to her baby and much, much more. Now how about him. Is he a father ready man or is he just a kid? would he want to be a father, his parents and their broken dreams for him, his emotions which he hasn't got a clue about either. now tell me do you really think it is a choice that you need to be thinking about right now? Please give yourself a childhood. Growing up is happening fast enough and it will happen, don't rush the stuff that needs to wait. Be friends, be buddies, be real and do the right thing....stay a child for a while longer OK?
2006-10-03 13:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you need to then you aren't ready. I waited until I was 22 and I was mature enough to have a child. You may use birth control but there is still a chance of something going wrong. if you aren't mature enough and finacially stable enough to have a child then you shouldn't have sex. Wait!!! I am so happy I waited. So many people regret having sex so young. I am 22 and I have no regrets...even if my boyfriend and I broke up, I still won't regret it. Also, sex doesn't feel good to everyone, so you may not like it and you may regret it then. I hope this helps!!!
2006-10-03 13:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by jennthack02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need then you are not ready. Not at 13 anyway, wait a while then maybe consider it. If he loves you like you say then he can wait til you are really sure. At least wait til you are around 16/17 at least.
2006-10-03 12:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry sweety, i have to agree with every one else. this is something that you are going to remember for the rest of your life. This one particular person is who you will be thinking of 5,10 etc years down the track.You want to be sure that hes worth it. Honestly he will want you more if you hold off, but if he doesnt stick around than thats a bloody good thing.Also keep in mind, just say, that if you fell pregnant, what would you do? Its such a huge gamble. Also he could get into serious trouble considering your age. Theres so many other ways that you can please eachother, please hold off and wait until you want it, not for someone elses sake :)
2006-10-03 13:03:08 · answer #7 · answered by Ange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are ready to have sex when you are ready to care for a baby. Ask yourself and answer honestly. Can you take care of a baby and complete high school? Very few girls can. And what will he do if you get pregnant? Probably deny having sex with you.
Legally, you have to be 18 to consent to having sex. If you are under 18 your parents can charge your boyfriend with statutory rape. That means he will go to jail for having sex with you.
In my opinion, 13 is way to young to be having sex.
2006-10-03 12:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you feel is puppy love and believe me that will pass you will have many loves in your life but at age 13 you might know what it is but when you lose your sweetness its lost forever-- and IF you have to ask that ? to stangers you are not ready for that final jump from child's play to woman hood-- are you ready for a child right now even if you say you are careful -- whoops does happen and will happen it only takes one little mistake and it will be a child raising a child-- sorry but what is the hurry
2006-10-03 13:03:27 · answer #9 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait. You'll never really know when you're ready to have sex. You will know afterwards if you weren't. You can't really predict it, but you can regret it. So wait. You're better off waiting.
2006-10-03 12:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by QuickQuestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it...sex right now is too fast and early...wait until you're 18. your love for each other does NOT equal sex all the time. best to wait
2006-10-03 15:10:57 · answer #11 · answered by starlove2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋