I have been dating a girl for about three months however I have known here for a couple of years, she even flew out to meet my folks and we dicussed me study abroad for four months and making it work, but I don't think she can handle it, I think she is freaking out, is it worth me trying to hold on if she cannont commit to me for four months? I do love the girl but I am worried about co dependency issues and this cut and run attitude coming up later in life when we are serious, please only serious answers
2006-10-03 12:52:58 · 7 answers · asked by ninja cat 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Heads or tails ...
Heads: There are so few people on Earth involved in happy relationships, that if you are in one now, perfect or not, you should hang on for dear life.
Tails: There are so many people out there who will fit great for you, that you shouldn't waste one more day with someone who isn't making you happy.
It has been reported, on the very rarest of occasions, that a coin will land on it's outer edge. If this happens in love, you need to hold on to them no matter what. Michael Jordan and Tiger Woods are the sports versions of the coin landing on a side. It happens in love too, but you must be able to identify it when it happens ... Not as easily identifiable in love as it is in sports.
You could always go with the "follow your heart" routine, but that has definately been linked to Catagory 5 heartbreak occurances.
What I do not recommend you do is "nothing for the sake of being afraid"
Don't be afraid to be a loser ... at least losers tried, right?
Good luck.
2006-10-03 13:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by BeLikeBenFranklin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you, the commitment is for always -- not just the four months you'd be apart. It's just a drop in the bucket compared to the rest of your lives together.
There's not too much of a big deal to have to "make it work" if it's just for 4 months, and assuming that the ending date is definite. Is she afraid you're going to find someone else? (And would you be looking?) Is she afraid she's going to find someone else?
What is are the commitment "rules" for these 4 months? That she will lock herself away in a tower, or that she won't go have sex with every man she meets during this time? As funny as that might seem, I think you need to figure out for yourself what the "commitment" would entail -- and what YOUR commitment would mean -- and then you need to talk to her about it. What kinds of "companionships" are okay, and what isn't, when you're apart? You need to be very specific about all your expectations, and you also need to listen carefully to what she has to say.
2006-10-03 13:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of you going abroad is new to her. I think in other case, she is afraid that you might find someone else. Perhaps you could assure your girlfriend that you will speak with her each night. Somethhing that makes her feel safe on the inside. If she breaks it off, just let her be. She obviously does not love you enough to hold the relationship together.
2006-10-03 12:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's rather that distinctive, 4 months should not be an prolonged wait in any respect. Plus possible "loaf around" earlier then and not have it surely be a date. it rather is rather a solid element, because it facilitates you time to go searching and notice if there are any, for loss of a extra valuable be conscious, "extra valuable" females accessible. you do not even would desire to "date" them. you are able to in simple terms get to appreciate them as friends. in case you nonetheless think of she's nicely well worth the wait, then wait.
2016-10-15 11:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by johannah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. only 4 months and she can't commit 2 it??? My own bro waited for his gf for an year when she went abroad and he's still waiting for her to come back this december. U really must love her but she doesn't. if she does then y is she freakin out? she should be able to commit to ur relationship. I don't no what u wanna do.......but i don't think she's worth it cs she doesn't want to or isn't willing to wait for u and that's...........really sad. I'm srry for u. Good LUck!!!
2006-10-03 12:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by v.ballerr <3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe move on,
2006-10-03 12:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she cant do it, leave her.
2006-10-03 12:55:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋