I found out that my sonwho is thirteen has been going into my closet and dressing up as a full girl, makeup, wig, dress, skirts, nail polish, high heels, anything. However he does not know I know this yet, how should I confront him with this.
2006-10-03 12:45:44 · 18 answers · asked by Floridafan 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Take a picture if he is doing this for fun so you can embarrass him later. But if he is trying to find himself then sit him down and be open don't hide anything from him, just let him know that you know and you want to help him and you wont judge him if he feels different from others. Be sensitive to this subject because he can be confused right now.
2006-10-03 12:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 6⤋
dont confront him at all if you are in any way feeling this is wrong or sick... because that will mess him up for life...
a lot of men enjoy cross dressing - infact in the 80's many men were rather open about it.. not to the extremes of drag queens.. but like Boy George etc.. anyhow some straight men do this too.. and interestingly enough some women find it very sexy...
straight or not shouldnt matter - he is your son and you should love him no matter what.. if he wants to try stuff out that should be ok with you - I would actually suggest going to a second hand clothing shop with him to buy him some clothes - if you do this now before Halloween it wont be so awkward...
of course he shouldnt go to school like that or anything but you should allow it at home in private and in moderation (particularly the make up) and explain that wearing other peoples make up and clothes isnt good - particually you can get sick from other peoples make up.. and teach him how not to over do the make up... and what colors are more tastefulll
ok good luck
- ohI am a 41 yr old married woman - and I find a man in make up sexy as hell.. I dont mean when they are all girly looking but dark eye shadow.. blue lipstick is HOT!!!
2006-10-03 21:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by CF_ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a son about that age.
If he did such a thing and I knew, I would have to question as I would have to know. I would ask my son why he was dressing up as a girl??
The answer could be harmless. I would then tell him I prefer him to stay out of my things. It could be early signs of a problem or possibly not. I see commercials of wives with husbands who cross dress right now on the television, advertising for an upcoming show, and I'm sure kids catch seeing some of that too.
Open communication is a key here. You want to be able to ask your child questions and for him to respond truthfully and discuss situations.
Ignoring this as if it never occured is doing neither of you any good.
2006-10-11 00:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embarrassing him will only shut the door of communication forever with him. Teenagers respond better with questions than accusations. Talk to him with the mindset he might not understand why he is doing this either.
Seek a counselor for the two of you. I don't know what your family's views are on being homosexual, and this might not even be that. There are straight men who do this and find pleasure in it. I don't think you can handle an issue this big on your own.
I'm sure you love your son, and the last thing you want is to risk losing the relationship you have with him. This is not a time when mom can just open the Dr. Spock book and find a fix.
2006-10-03 19:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's 13 sit down and talk to him let him know you love him no matter what n no don't take a pic. of him with out him knowing will embarass him to much and may put a wall between the two of you if you want a pic of him dressed up then let him know and tell him it will be kept untill he is older and then the two of you will decide to show it to people above all else try not to embarass him about it and let him know that you will love him no matter what
2006-10-03 19:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by prissymiss1968 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Very casually, just ease into the conversation. I don't know how to ask him about it though, maybe you can watch a movie that has boys dressing up like girls, and bring it up that way.
2006-10-03 19:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by cherrie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just simply ask him what he is doing. Tell him you want to talk about this like adults. Ask him if he is confused with his sexuallity. If he says he is confused, take it from there and ask him questions and answer any that he may have
2006-10-08 12:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by single_mom2106 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him!!!!! Just listen!
But do remind him those are your possessions.
And remind him Young Men ask to borrow things!
2006-10-03 21:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is gay but some parents need to respect that
or bring him to church
and make sure the pastor prays for him
maybe he is playin dume
2006-10-11 14:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by sweetypye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would sit him down and ask why he does it and then if it is just something that makes him happy arrange a talk with a counsler and be sopportive
2006-10-09 15:01:41 · answer #10 · answered by lizzy tish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋