Why does it seem that friends treat you better than your own family members? This happens quite a bit.?

Question

For instance, I am a college student, and at spring break, my friend offered to take me to the airport even though she had to wake up at 4:30 so that I could catch a 6:00 flight. I tried to give her gas money for waking up so early and driving me to the airport, but she wouldn't take the money. She just told me to have a good time and she would see me when I returned. I flew to see my mom and stayed with her for about a week, and I had a great time with my family. But when it was time for me to return home to go back to school, my sister who has money, a beautiful home and two cars, would not even take me to the airport. My mom does not have a car, so I had to ask around and beg different people in my mom's small town if they would give me a ride to the airport. I finally did get a ride, but when I asked my sister why she wouldn't give me a ride, she said that it was not convenient for her! She said she was not a taxi cab and I should have offered her some money, or rented a car.

Answer 1

It could be that she had something important to take care of. Don't always look for the bad in her. Do you always treat her nicely? You mentioned spending time with your mom but, did you try to have a good time with your sister? If you did and she did not have anything to do then maybe she was just hormonal. Did you ask her or just assume that she was going to take you? My sisters always assume I will do something for them and then get angry when I don't, even when they don't ask in the first place.

Answer 2

Even though this does not happen all the time, it is rather common. IMHO family members seem to take each other for granted knowing that no matter what, family will be family and the ties that bind (blood) can never be broken. Friendships are a little bit more complex since the bond is strengthened through time and trials. Therefore more people put a little extra effort to keep worthwhile friendships than towards family members.

And then there are those who only help others because they are expecting something in return.

You are lucky to be a very resourceful person to figure out your way out of a bind. The only thing you can do knowing that your family cannot be depended on all the time is be prepared. And be glad that your family problems aren't as complex as others. Like mine. lol.

Answer 3

That is why friends are called friends. They are who we choose. We can't exactly choose our families. My family completely sucks and I could list stories, a mile or so long. For instance, my aunt and uncle were over my dad's will and estate and lived near where my dad was hospitalized in a three story mansion and never once offered to let me stay the night. My mom stopped talking to me when she found out I was engaged and had a meeting with our mutual friends and told them if they attended the wedding that they would no longer be her friends. My sister did not speak to me since I was in 6th grade, until my dad's funeral, because I had lived with my mother when our parents divorced. When my dad died, my aunt and uncle were trying to schedule the memorial service around my uncle's birthday party. They tried to steal the guest book and then accused other guests of taking it, when I had it. This same uncle, talked my spouse into giving him a picture that was in my home, after my dad died and now I hate my spouse and my coniving uncle for doing this sht to me and I plan to take them to court. When my dad died, I had been taking care of him and had a degree, but was not working and my uncle froze the accounts and I had no money for food or bills. My mom's side--uncle is a judge and his girlfriend and daughter are lawyers and they never once in my life have offered me any legal help or assistance when I asked for advice. In high school, my mother dated boys there and I was the laughing stock of the town.
So I could go on and on, but I will stop here.

Family sucks!

Answer 4

stay a strategies removed from somebody who makes you sense responsible approximately breaking apart with him. you may ok be handling a manipulative, controlling guy or woman. And, for sure, in case you extremely have confidence he's depressed and suicidal you may touch his mom and dad. whether you may ask your mom and dad to touch his mom and dad for you. this form of undertaking is over your head - so i might confer with an grownup and make particular they check out the placement. he continues to be a minor and his mom and dad could make particular he gets help. He could hate you for doing this - yet whilst somebody is hurting themselves (or others) then you extremely could step in no be counted what the result.