Why is it I always go for the bad ones get turned upside down, lied to and treated like a mug?
I know a girl whom I fell in love with eight yrs ago, turned out I wasn't the only one in love with her at the time if you get my drift?
met her again a month ago and started(like an idiot) to fall for her again. Turns out she has a boyfriend(and I know I shouldnt be surprised) that she "doesn't want to be with" he is always round her( they live apart aswell so I dont understand why) she told me "some people change" but I know she hasn't in my head but my heart still wants her. She has upset me to the point of dispair and I still want her. I am not stupid (admittedly I always try to see the good in people) and I don't need to be insulted(already low enough thanks) but some constructive words would do me a favour) I dont think all women are bad (more of us"men"are worse) I just need advice thanks.
2006-10-03 12:26:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You put a lot of hope and your self into your relationships and people. You have a good heart and have good intentions, but unfortunately the ones you seek know this and know you make yourself vulnerable easily, and then they take advantage of that.
Consider yourself schooled by hard knocks. There are feew harder than having to admit that you stayed in, or became involved in, a relationship that you shouldn't have. You now have another set of emotional black eyes to prove it.
Chalk it up to experience and learn from this. Be giving.....yes.....be open.....yes, don't be bitter and don't be angry. Just accept that you made a mistake, and there are evil, horrid people in the world that just do not care. They are selfish, self-serving people that don't care about anyone except themselves. I got rid of one worse than this a few months ago. I should have dumped her a long time ago, but did not. She knew to feed me just enough to keep me coming back, but most of the time she was a hag. I'm free of it, and you will be too. You'll meet a nice girl, and you'll be so glad about it. I think I'm there now myself. Time will tell.
We go thru life. We make mistakes and we get hurt. Sometimes we can help it, other times we cannot. It's part of life.
You will be ok, and you will meet someone worthy of the good heart and intentions that you have.
2006-10-03 12:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! I know you really won't want to hear this but you know it already... this girl isn't worthy of you. You sound quite sensitive and she sounds to be a bit of a user; the type who will say / do just enough to keep you dangling and make her feel wanted / loved, but you are getting nothing back. Unfortunately her coming back into your life seems to you to maybe be a second chance for you to win some genuine affection from her. instead of looking at it this way try seeing her re-appearance as a test for you to regain your own sense of self esteem in seeing that she really isn't good enough for YOU. Its bad enough when someone makes a fool of you - but it's 100 times worse when you realise that you've helped someone make a fool out of you. Give her up and i promise you that the true love of your life will enter your life at exactly the right time. She's not going to appear if you seem to be 'taken' by someone else.Refuse to be her doormat any longer... you can do it!! XOX
2006-10-03 19:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun it happens to the best of us!!
Youknow the situation here so it is best to walk away - this woman isnt worthy of you and there are loads out there that are!
Yes I know you'll be upset - but think of the happiness you'll find down the road by walking away from her and finding a genuine nice lady.
Dont change how you feel towards people because of this woman - one bad egg in the bunch doesnt make everyone automatically be like her - I know you realise this and thats a good thing. I wish you luck! xx
2006-10-04 06:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it's going to be for you, you NEED TO LET GO.
She doesn't respect you if she's putting you through all this. Do you really want to be someone's sucker for the rest of your life?
One day she will realize what she thew away. Make sure that when she does, you let her know it's too little too late.
There's no better feeling than rubbing how good you are in the face of someone who has hurt you and come to their senses.
2006-10-03 19:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Deleted 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know she's trouble then don't let your emotions get the best of you. If you deprive yourself of her it may hurt but think about it. Does it hurt more now than it did when you realized what she was doing? Think that over and come up with an answer. If you do go back to her then I truly do pity you. Good luck.
2006-10-03 19:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bellatrix/Jimmypants 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No-one can tell you how to feel...if she is in your heart and you can't be with her it will tear you apart.... take a step back and try and look at it from another angle... but if you really want her give her another chance go for it, we dont get a trial run at life..
2006-10-03 19:33:26 · answer #6 · answered by fluffy bunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have already answered your question.....you know in your head she has not changed....you know you fell for after she cheated on you and yes thats what an idiot would do like you said...so move on....really there is no need to go thru all that crap again...you seem intelligent enough to realise that...so just do it...move on
2006-10-03 19:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl isn't going to ever want to be with you and only you. She never has before and it is not going to change. You need to get over her and find yourself a lady who is going to love you for you and not play games with your mind.
2006-10-03 19:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay....you let yourself get too caught up in this chick...find something to occupy yourself...better yet dont even go around her...stay away...find someone else to fill your mind up with...if she continually treats you like crap you DO NOT NEED HER!!
2006-10-03 19:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by Morgan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't normally be caught dead saying this, but your mind is the one who's right in this case. Listen to it and RUNNNNNNNNN!
2006-10-03 19:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Argy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋