My girlfriend wants a break?

Question

My girlfriend of almost 5 years says she wants a break to see if we're really "meant to be". It's driving me crazy though I'm so scared she won't come back to me. I've been depressed for 3 days, I can't sleep, I can't eat, and I can't concentrate on school or anything.

I'm only 18 or I'd propose to her today. I just don't what to do.

Answer 1

sometimes breaks ar ok but if you have been together since you were 13 or so you did miss out on alot of experiences maybe thats what both of you need is to just experience life a little dont do anything to serious with anyone else but go out and enjoy what life brings and hopefully you are meant to be together

Answer 2

I think taking a break is stupid!!! Whenever someone suggest taking a break and especially after a long time together usually means she wants to explore or experience something else with out you. After five years she should know if you guys are meant together. Think about it your 18 and have been with her for 5 years, you guys are young, many at that age want to go out and meet all kinds of people. Don't even think about proposing!

Answer 3

Let me give you a little advice here. Quit being such a whiney little b**ch. You're a man (sort of), act like one. You sitting around moping is NOT going to bring her back. So please, find your spine, insert it back into yourself, and live your life. Honestly, after reading that, it's no wonder she wants a break. That would drive any woman nuts.

Everyone is going to give you an "I'm sorry" or "That sucks". That doesn't help the situation now, does it? It may sound mean now, but I am only being direct and honest with you. You'll be thanking me in a few years.

Look at life using these two quotes: "Whatever doesn't kill you only makes you stronger." and "Don't sweat the small stuff. Everything is small stuff."

Answer 4

My friend.....I have to be honest. I don't think this is a good sign.

I think you need to start dealing with the idea that you will not have her. I've been on each end of this, and it's not worked out in favor of staying together. :(

I do not want to encourage you because that would not be a good thing to give you false hope. I suppose there IS a chance that things could recover for you, but I don't think it's likely.

She has somehow either been tempted away from you, or there is something about yours and her relationship that bothers her and she is having trouble resolving it while she's with you.

In my experience I believe this is only the time she needs to get the strength to say goodbye.

Prepare yourself for this. It may not be 100%, but I believe this is what is coming your way. I'm very sorry that you are hurting. It's horrible to go thru, but accept what is......when/if it comes, and deal with it in as healthy a way as possible.



You'll get thru this.

Answer 5

sorry dude, but the more you try to stop her from having this break the more she'll resent you and break it off full time.

the best thing is to let her go, remain friends, and do your best to get on with life. it's hard, we all know that, but pushing someone into something just isn't going to turn out the way you want.

your 18, gf of 5 years, so a good chance you would get something out of dating someone else as well. don't think of it as losing a gf, but as gaining some more experiences that will give you a much broader outlook on life.

sorry if this seems flippant, but we've all been there and we're all still alive and kicking, so yes life does move on and yes we feel sad at times, but most of all we enjoy ourselves as much as possible and work through any bad times.

all the best dude.

Answer 6

i don't understand why she needs a break to see if you two are right for each other. If you two have been together for that long then she should know. That's just another way of her saying she wants to be with other guys for a "change" I would break up with her, because what she wants doesn't make sense.

Answer 7

It's very complicated when your partner does something, but you have no idea why. You may see her reason, but perhaps you don't even see your own. It looks like to me that you feel as though that you have no say, and what she says goes. Personally, I think that your girlfriend should've spoken with you about what's going on in her mind. Not just "I want to see if it was meant to be".

Answer 8

well...when i told my girlfriend maybe we should take a break..she said "just dump me" because in a way..it's saying "i wanna be with you but i wanna be with other people too"
so why bother with her if she's gonna be like that? if she loved you then she wouldn't need to take a "break" because she'd know it was right...and the only way she could find out is by doing stuff with other guys and seeing if she thought of you, or just didn't see any guys which would be stupid...hope that i helped

Answer 9

maybe she is just scared cause it is getting to serious between you two...or maybe she got bored,try to improve your relationship,try to do new things with her... try anything that you think she might like...and wait some time for proposing her,cause it`s certainly not the right time...not from age and not from her perspectives...
if nothing works to keep her away from this break,then just give her a break...if she truly loves you she will come back...

Answer 10

if after almost 5 years she doesn't know if it was meant to be. it probably isn't meant to be. Let her go and if she comes back great and if not find some one else.