is younger than me, we met, got on greeeat and i can't stop thinking about him, i haven't seen him for a while and it's tearing me apart. He's smart, funny, very sexy and so easy going. Is this his way of saying he's not interested anymore or am i just being paranoid? I have sent him IM's and got no reply, I am worried too in case something has happened. I want to be with him and don't know anymore if he wants to be with me. The last time we met we had a great night together (nothing sexual) I want to wait til the time is right, since then I have heard nothing. I just keep thinking the worse and I really couldn't bear it if he didn't want to see me again. What should I do? Be nice and don't tell me to forget him as I can't, there may be a simple explanation, but I just feel like my heart has been ripped out.
2006-10-03 12:19:56 · 22 answers · asked by ball_cathie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have his phone number
2006-10-03 12:54:07 · update #1
he was very enthusiastic, he has been there for me and been really supportive and stood by me, i don't think i would have got thru what i have without him!
2006-10-05 10:16:40 · update #2
Forget the IM'ing - go talk to him. Ask him if he still wants to go out with you, that you miss him, etc. - you'll find out if he's really interested or not - you need to know, one way or the other.
Good Luck!
2006-10-03 12:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by RT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Age doesnt matter in a relationship, what counts is that you have that certain spark and a mutual respect and understanding of each others feelings. Maybe this guy that you have fallen for is trying to play it cool for fear of frightening you away if he is too full on because he feels the same way, or maybe, as you say, he is not interested.
From what you say about your last meeting, there is nothing to indicate that he would purposely avoid you.
Worrying about the situation will only serve to talking yourself into possible scenario's that may not exist though, so as hard as it is, be brave and confront the situation head on.
You say you have IM'd him. If you have met up with him, do you have a phone number or an address. Try another way to make contact with him, maybe his computer has crashed.
Whatever you decide to do I wish you lots of luck! x
2006-10-03 12:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ali 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before we write him off, give him another chance. Call him or write him a Email. Let him know how you feel. If he's interested in you he will respond. He just might be frighten that you are coming on too strong and he is not ready for a "heavy" relationship. So let him know that you are willing and ready to take it one day at a time etc. But then he might have just be interested in you for a one night stand and sex. In that case you don't need him and forget him!
You shouldn't let your self get so emotionally involved before you get to know a man better, that way you will not suffer later.
2006-10-03 12:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by Dale 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be playing the stress game. One of my old boyfriends used to play that game with me. I would do whatever I could to communicate with him and he would ignore it. Then he would call a frantic me. If it turns out he's not(he probably isn't)then he could just be busy or his computer could be down or something. Find out if he likes you back before you glue yourself to him. Trust me nothing hurts more than to know your not wanted the same way. Good luck.
2006-10-03 12:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bellatrix/Jimmypants 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not interested. When a guy is interested, he WILL contact you. Nothing happened except his feelings for you are apparently not at all the same as yours are for him. Just forget about him and move on; there are plenty of guys who are smart, sexy and fun, don't waste your time chasing an imaginary relationship.
2006-10-03 12:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you feel that you had chemistry when you were out with him than you should try and run into him again. Find out where he likes to go and just show up. I wouldn't keep trying to get him to call or email you, then you seem desperate. If he likes you he will find a way to let you know.
2006-10-03 12:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by lilmorn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
remember that guys mature slower than gals, and he's younger than you, so you both may be at different maturity or communication levels.
Just sit back and observe and waite on HIM to make the next play. If he doesn't, he's just not ready NOW, but may be ready in a few years from now. You take a risk at waiting, but this is who you are focused on right now....
Good luck!
2006-10-03 12:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you're not "stalking" the guy. Big turnoff. If he is interested, let him make the first move. And if he approaches you act like you don't care, but don't be rude. Men hate clingy women. And you were smart in not having sex with him. Stick to your morals, and you will go a long way in life. Good luck.
2006-10-03 12:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by hazeleyedbeauty1967 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i feel u might just be talking to that guy but in any case ,i suggest u approach him and find out his reason and feeling about u cos it wont help hiding from the truth whereas confronting it could be either positive or negative
2006-10-03 12:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are young and these feelings are so real and hurtful. Aslo for that reason, try to get out and about with your friends and family if they are ok. I know something else, you will do exactly what your heart decides and only you. So go see him - you can only die of heartbreak - I have lots of times! Just don't please lose all your pride. OK?
2006-10-03 12:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋