I had been taking this girl out, and we didn't have much in common, but she was very attractive and had a cool house. Well, one night after spending money on her, we winded up sleeping together. It was great and I had a good time. She started wanting to talk about feelings and whatnot, and I was not equipped for such discussions so I needed to migrate out the door, and operate my vehicle to my house to sleep. She seems angry. We had sex again the following night and again, I had to leave and do some laundry. Whats up with her?
2006-10-03 12:09:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is so dumb for sleeping with you
2006-10-03 12:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all women are more sensitive and emotional than men are. When a woman has sex with a man she wants to know where things are going from there. Are you just into it for sex only? Are you interested in a relationship?
These are some of the things going through her mind. They don't want to be just a "play thing" for a man. They want something more concrete. Ok, a man might put in some effort to please a woman before sex, but after it's over, it's over as far as he is concerned, but this is not how a woman thinks or is.
If you really like her, then take the time to listen to her before and after - take a little time to talk before you walk. Then explain to her that you feel that you feel uncomfortable staying over and feel the need to go back home. She has a right to know just how you feel about your relationship between her and you. "Men are such Beasts"
Not my words, but the words of many women like the girl your having sex with.
And that my friend is "what's up with her."
2006-10-03 12:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're a jerk. You had to bring up the fact of "spending money on her"....smooth. Girls are more emotional than guys, so it's natural for us to get a little attached after intimacy. The fact of the matter is that you just want to get in and get out. Stop being a jerk, and go find a girl who's cool with being just an FB.
2006-10-03 12:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by yankeegirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you have to realize that sex to a female is like giving up a piece of herself to you. She wants you to give her a piece of you in return. She wants to know that she is not just some one night stand and that you think she is an amazing woman. My advice is that next time you sleep with her, spend at least 15 minutes just holding her, playing with her hair and telling her the things you like most about her. Then, when you have to leave, she won't feel like you are just taking something and abandoning her. You don't have to lie and tell her you love her or want to be with her, but just a simple string of compliments will let her know that she is special and if things do not work out, you will not be accused of leading her on.
2006-10-03 12:14:42 · answer #4 · answered by cinarella 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well she doesn't understand that guys your age are only into the sex. not the feelings and emotional stuff (like she is).
you two need to talk and come to an agreement on your sexual activity. You need to understand her needs afterwards and she needs to understand that the only thing you want to do after is to leave and go watch sprorts center.
So... the way I see it you are really only into her for the sex. You need to tell her that and once she knows and understand that then she can better deal with what you do after sex (provided she will sleep with you again after you have this discussion)
2006-10-03 12:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems she lacks self-respect.
While I have to give you points for not lying to the girl, and instead of just filling her head with promises of "I feel the same way" you just took off... but, perhaps what's wrong is that maybe she thinks you have more of a relationship than you do... but, I think you sound terrible in the fact that you said "one night after spending money on her" ...
But, my suggestion, is to have an honest conversation with her about how you really feel...
2006-10-03 12:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are more interested in her looks, money, and vulnerability than in the girl herself. She is rather foolish but you, my dear, are a stinker. You want your cake and eat it too. Do yourself a favor and keep it in your pants until you are mature enough to have a true relationship.. What if she were to become pregnant, you certainly aren't ready for Fatherhood, right.
I am talking to you as I would my own son, You are out of your league here. She is thinking you
love' her. Take a break from her and others until you know what you want in life.
2006-10-03 12:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by Harley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women get more emotional during romantic situations. The more you migrate and leave, the more they want you. If you want a relationship with here you cant just leave everytime. If you just wanna hit that just leave. Maybe one time you could cuddle afterwards for like 5 mins, then dont call her for like 3 days, then she'll want you. be in control.
2006-10-03 12:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by mermer7@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have an unusual condition where I can only have sex with people I love and who love me back.
Maybe she has the same problem, but jumped the gun in having sex with you (because she was really horny or you are a total stud) and now she wants to rectify the situation retroactively by falling in love with you and/or making you fall in love with her.
2006-10-03 12:19:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jimee77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, what's wrong with you? Why won't you just talk to her for a bit? Your laundry can always wait. If you want to keep this girl, you need to be more thoughtful.
2006-10-03 12:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Your Wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's a girl - some tend to feel connected to those they sleep with. They want to talk and feel emotionally connected. Explain you're just hittin then quittin or feel she's in too deep and keep your pants zipped.
2006-10-03 12:12:06 · answer #11 · answered by Barbarella 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋