i just want my kids to grow up wit a good dad my ex-boyfriend rite now is a Meth head and i dont want him around our son and our soon to be born daughter.
2006-10-03 11:54:27 · 10 answers · asked by Amber E 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well get your Ex some HELP!!!! He is the father and has his rights too. He needs to get cleaned up and can't do it alone. Talk to your Ex about getting help first, go through the steps, get him to kick the habit and tell him what kind of future he has with his beautiful sons and if it could be in the plans, with you to.
Obviously you two like each other or you wouldn't have had a second baby together. The child needs a father, a family unit, and you are the best source for satisfying that need. Work things out either way.
Good luck. God Bless you all.
2006-10-03 12:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by dealerschool2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that sometimes things happen and im not gonna bust you down like everyone else. Why dont you try to move you and your children somewhere he would not find you. When and If he ever gets his life straight then you could reintroduce him into your home. Thats only if he sober and has a job to support his family. Apparently you care about him still but are doing the right thing by protecting your kids. My dad was a meth head and when i was 14 he got me on drugs and my b/f selling it for him. I ended up in rehad at 15. Check out my question about What do i say? It may give you some insight of what can happen if you allow him around your kids. Good luck and keep ya in my prayers.
2006-10-03 12:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't let him around the kids without supervision. You can go to the court house, or your local department of human services and tell them that you're afraid to let him around your kids because of his "lifestyle". (It helps if he's been arrested for meth possession to add validity to your story, but not completely necessary.) They'll issue a protective custody order that says he's only allowed to see the kids with the supervision of either another relative, or a court appointed supervisor. You can also try to file a restraining order, but typically they'll only issue one if he's abusive in some form or another.
As for your kids growing up with a good father, hopefully you'll meet the right man for the job. I lucked out and found one that's willing to be Dad when my kids' father won't. (Jerkoff. I hate dead beat dads.) So keep your chin up for your kids honey, you're all they have right now. Good luck!! =D
2006-10-03 12:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes things happen and they are not in your control. I am a single mother of 3 children. I have remained friends with their dads (2 fathers) and they have continued a good meaningful relationship. One drinks a lot (alcoholic) and he knows he can not drink around the kids. As far as being a single parent... anyone can do it and do a good job. Just don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. When your doing it alone and refusing help you are not being fair to your children.
2006-10-03 12:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him that in order to be a good father, he has to straighten out his life. once he proves that he cares more about his kids, than his drugs, let him back into the kids lives but under supervision at first.
make sure you tell your kids that it is ok to love daddy, but he is sick and needs help to get better.
Remember that you are a mommy, and have to put your kids first, not their meth head dad's feelings. Please don't have anymore kids with him.
2006-10-03 12:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is addicted to drugs, I would recommend getting a restraining order right away. You are right to feel this way, and it is your job to protect your children from potential harm...with meth, that is sure to happen, whether physically, mentally, or emotionally, he will hurt them. Tell him to get his sh*t together and you will let him see the kids...until then, he needs to stay away!
2006-10-03 11:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by qamberq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say try and raise them on your own and go out and find a respecting man that can help you take care and love you for you, but I wouldnt suggest letting the man who does drugs in their life father or not.
2006-10-03 12:03:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never get people like you. Grow up and get into a real relationship. Dont have unprotected sex with drug users. Everyone makes mistakes, BUT YOU DID IT TWICE!!!
2006-10-03 11:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Then why get pregnant by him?
2006-10-03 11:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
lol ur a moron =)
2006-10-03 12:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋