How do you work through the pain of the anniversary of a death of a loved one.?

Answer 1

To me it's important not to make a huge deal out of the day because it can bring back more pain than neccessary. Maybe go by the grave for a few minutes but after that you have to go on with your day like any other. Moving on and rememberence are hard to do at the same time, but thats the way it has to go.

Answer 2

Consider getting away for a little while. Find a place that is quiet where you can be alone. Take long walks on peaceful paths, in the mountains, on the beach, any where that you sense God can reach out to you. Watch the sun come up and watch the sun go down. This place is temporal. Close your eyes and let your spirit reconnect with the universe. Trust in God that your loved one is in a good and safe place. Remind youself that your spirits will be reunited in the end. You are here for a reason. Honor the memory of this loved one by living well. God bless and keep you all.

Answer 3

Hi, Always remember the good times you shared while they were alive. Try not to dwell on the pain of losing them so much. A good thing to do is to visit there gravesite and leave some flowers there. I strongly suggest you bring another loved one with you or a very close friend who will give you a warm hug and shoulder to cry on. Then perhaps after that, you can go visit a place your deceased loved one enjoyed going to, such as a favorite restaurant, park or museum. You can also go to temple or church and say a prayer for them or light a candle.

I hope this helps you
take care
TC

Answer 4

I was extremely close to my mother and when she died (24 years ago now), I thought my world had collapsed. I dealt with the first anniversary of her death by getting drunk - not something I would recommend but it helped me at the time. However, every year since I make sure that I have a small amount of time to myself to sit and reflect and remember. I still cry but I reckon that's a healthy release of emotions. My advice to you is to go with your feelings, don't hold back. Take care.

Answer 5

Think nice thoughts of the loved one & remember the good times you shared.Sad thoughts will make you feel worse.Go to a place you used to go to together & spend a little time there.
I keep the anniversary of my husband's death to myself.My children & my family obviously know when it is but I don't tell anyone else,I like to have my private thoughts.

Answer 6

its my late mums birthday this friday and the whole family goes out for a meal,kids too, when its her anniversary my brothers take the afternoon off work and the 4 of us take her flowers and head to the pub and spend the afternoon having a drink and a laugh about the daft things she did...the first year we shed a few tears too but had a nice arternoon remeniscing..we always raise a glass to her, not just on her anniversary but whenever we get together....we all still miss her terribly, but it becomes a part of you so you get better at dealing with it. i wish you well

Answer 7

I lost a husband of 33 years. I adored him and he adored me - from the time we met until the day he died (and beyond for me.) No one can understand your pain because each relationship is unique. Try to concentrate on something they would like to see you do. It helped me to keep a journal of my feelings and in essence write a note to my husband every day for the first several months. Soon I was able to feel that he was still with me and we will be together one day. Cry all you want - laugh at something they would have laughed at - but mostly - be open to "seeing them" around you. Whether it is a beautiful sunset a song they really liked or something that reminds you of them. They are always with you.

Answer 8

You never get over it!!!! i lost my mother 12 years ago last week on the 24th of spetember i was 8 when she died, and i just think of the good things about her and the healthy time that i had with her, plus if im half the woman she was, id be doing brilliantly, my brother had a child two years ago and that def helps ease the pain and helps us forget!!!! just aim on the good things that are in ur life right now!!!!

Answer 9

Try not to focus on that particular date. Instead, try remembering your loved one throughout the year. Relive some of the good memories and happier times that you had with them. Or you could do the opposite and try to make that date special by doing something that your loved one enjoyed doing. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

Sounds like you may need some grief counselling to help you work through this, these things need to run there course, every day it does get easier, and that is not a easy thing for me to say, as i work through this every year, especially in the month of Augest, which i find a really hard month, but i take one day at the time.......in differents years of course, i lost my son,mother,father, father -in-law, Son 10years old, Mother 9years, and father-in-law 3 years. good luck and take care...........